Does it get easier?

[Cornish1]

Hi, I am writing on here because I know a lot of you will understand how I am feeling.
I was in an emotional, physical and sexual abusive relationship with my ex partner for many years.
I have a diagnosis of PTSD and just completed my therapy for this.
I haven’t seen him since the split etc and I have just had a VERY long day at work and driving home, (detail removed by Moderator). I thought after therapy things would get a lot easier but after I was in a huge mess, my panic attacks started, flash backs started and I just couldn’t stop crying. I know I am safe now but is this something I am going to feel every time?

[OctoberSunshine]

Hi Cornish1,

It does get easier. It takes time but it does get easier.

Strangely I had the same experience with my abuser, (detail removed by Moderator) (possibly to check what I had been upto). The incident was a long time ago, although I haven’t seen him since.

After we split I had PTSD, flashbacks at at work, and horrible nightmares. It took a while but they eased up a while after, I had therapy along the way. Eventually for me they went away completely.

I focused on myself after the split, and really enjoyed my time with family and friends. The therapist helped with the PTSD symptoms and specifically managing the flashbacks.

I hope this helps.

[Cornish1]

Hi,
I completely agree I think things do take time and I need to stop being so harsh on myself and remember I have come such a long way!
I’m so glad you are doing well! 💜

[ABALTP]

I am in the same position, medicated and in therapy for PTSD, after the best part of a lifetime of physical mental and sexual abuse. It’s like being on a roller coaster, and the highs and lows come so quickly after each other sometimes I can’t get my head straight. I think I see him and I panic and sometimes I think I see him and still question whether it was that bad. I really focus on doing the things that help me feel like me, dancing, running, writing, whatever it is – find what brings you joy even for a little while. Also the passing of time, it has to end eventually – I’m coming up to (detail removed by Moderator) since I left him and there are lights at the end of the tunnel probably equal number of days as there are not! At first I told myself 6 months and I’ll be in the clear, now I just take each day at a time, celebrate the good days and tell myself one day I will wake up and the worst will be over.

So yes it gets easier but it takes a long time – be kind to yourself x

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