Emotional abuse

[Hopingforpeace]

Hi, do you ever feel like your surrounded by people who don’t understand? They see you and think all is ok and don’t mention your ex even though they know you have to deal with him regularly for child contact. At the moment I’m having to manage my ex trying to emotionally manipulate our child more than ever and he’s send more abusive emails to me over past several months. So much going round in my head but don’t know who to turn to who will understand. I know have to deal with it but be nice if I had a friend who said I understand or try to understand the seriousness of it, and how hard it must be and just be there. I feel isolated and I still get this feeling sometimes that I want to just break free. I mean I’ve left him yet at times at the moment I feel trapped by him , like no escape.

[teabag]

Talk to us here. If his emails are concerning you then report them. Can you talk to Woman’s Aid and get some local support? They might be able to advise tea grading you child.

It’s a lonely path. I find people shy away from DA like child abuse. You have to find those who understand and that’s us here and maybe meeting women in your area who are experiencing similar.
Much love to you xx

[Iwantmeback]

Hi, unless someone has been abused, no-one gets it, not really. Until you can heal yourself, talk to us on here. Have you tried talking to your doctor, tell them you’re really struggling knowing your partner is abusive and need someone to talk to, to make sense of it all. I had a preliminary meeting with a psychologist to decide what therapy best suited my needs. They’ll tell you too what timeline to expect re waiting. The preliminary meeting didn’t take long to come through. It’s good he’s sending those emails, they’ll come in handy when custody rights arise. You can stop contact too if you’re seeing a marked difference in the wee one. You’re her mum, you have to protect her just now and the future adult she’ll become. trust me having an abuser in a young life, the adult they become is so troubled, they have no self esteem, go on to have abusive relationships themselves, they can become reliant on drink and drugs, they can also become suicidal too.
Keep posting, keep learning others stories, knowledge is power.
This isn’t a road any of us would ever choose, but these are the cards we’ve been dealt(for now). time to play the game sister.
Best wishes IWMB 💕💕

[Hopingforpeace]

Hi, iwantmeback, its been years now and ive had some counselling and ive recently started rape counselling which I think maybe why im finding this harder to deal with at the moment. It was coercive rape, emotional manipulation. ive been through so much over years since ive been out with different professionals including SS and courts. I don’t have faith in them. I tried everything to protect my child and get help for my child but I wasnt believed and was painted as causing trouble. My ex has ramped up the emotional abuse again over last several months as he isnt getting what he wants in regards to child contact, im not reacting to him and our child has had the confidence to say no to him more when he puts pressure on to do something he wants. Hes playing mind games and my child is coping wellish at the moment and im doing all I can to help. I just wish there was more help out there for children in this situation. I just wish we were believed so our children are helped.

[Hopingforpeace]

Hi teabag, thank you so much. I am not too frightened by his emails anymore. I am concerned sometimes about child contact handover if its when he clearly isn’t happy but its in a public place. it just I guess triggers me sometimes as he is being emotionally abusive to our child and using our child and the contact to try to get at me. It breaks my heart what he puts our child through. I don’t have any faith in certain professionals. SS don’t understand domestic abuse, they sided with my ex in past and put me through hell, none of which helped my child. I have spoken to Womens Aid and done parenting with domestic violence program and freedom program etc/ Its been years now ive been out and not sure what else they can offer in terms of helping a child cope with emotional abuse. Can you however call them anonymously?

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