Emotional Torture

[MayFlower@]

Hello

Thank you to everyone who has posted. Your voices are strong and have helped me to post for the first time.

I have recently bought my own place so can begin to patch up my life with a little hope. However he seems to continue to want total control of me:

No deliveries

No talking to anyone

No leaving messages for people unless he is in control

Suggesting spending my money on a fortune of ‘improvements’

Contolling every penny of mine despite him having a huge amount of savings and due to inherit even more

Appearing out of nowhere in his car to say he wants to help fix things in the house then telling me I am insane and mad and that ‘everyone else thinks so’ and I belong in the madhouse then leaving me immediately in a state of total panic and confusion and doubt

I am actually beginning to think him and potentially his own Dad want me sectioned so he can take the property

Refusing to give me back MY spare keys

I am a very spiritual person and this is the only thing I have to believe in but the local people seem SO nice yet his emotional accusations of my sanity are a great attack on my self belief

I am about to go out and get a quote to change my locks

The only thing I am worried about that I can’t do anything about at present is that I have started to smoke due to the emotional pressure but I hope to sort this later. It is also so expensive but I don’t drink.

I did have a breakdown (detail removed by Moderator) years ago from a massive amount of stress in a career I had and the doctor prescribes for me. He uses this against me to undermine everthing I do/say /think. I need to phone the doctor to tell them of the abuse but am scared in case he thinks my emotions are my fault. I’m leaving that till the end of the week so I ground myself more.

I am writing down everthing he does/says and am stopping any communication with him.

Women’s Aid have helped me get this far.

Please help with advice if you can.

 

[Lisa]

Hi MayFlower@,

Welcome to the forum and thank you for posting. I hope you find the forum a safe and supportive place to be with others who understand.

If you feel like you are in need of some additional support, you could chat to a Women’s Aid worker in confidence via our Live Chat service (open every day). They won’t tell you what to do, but can discuss your situation and signpost you to other support that’s relevant for you. You can access the chat service here.

Do keep posting to let us know how you’re getting on.

Best wishes,

Lisa
Forum Moderator

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