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So the LO is struggling to settle at school. He had been doing so well for the first 5/6 weeks and then turn for worse. He seems petrified, hysterical all night and morning ans through the night waking, he is complaing of bad tummy pains and feeling like he is going to be sick.. im sure its all anxiety and yesterday one teacher said he had told her he was afraid of the other one shouting… has this been a result of his dad shouting in his face last week? The timing seems right.. has it rocked and unsettled him or is it coincidence?
(detail removed by moderator). We took him in together and he geipped the seats in the car to hang on as tight as he could.. i couldnt get him out so dad had too.. when out he started carrying him and the LO was reaching for me sobbing so i tried to take him but dad wouldnt allow me.. he kept pulling away and so i reached to take him anyway as he clearly was crying for me to comfort him. Anyway dad decided that i was wrong and called me f*n stupid in the car park infeont of people and proceeded to tell me to make him walk and how im making it worse because the LO doesnt want to leave me so me taking him and cuddling him is making it harder foe him to leave me.. i can see the logic in his thinking but if your child is in distress as a mother we just want to comfort them and calm them so they feel ok and safe and maybe that will help them feel relaxed and better about going. Anyway im just annoyed and upset and tired of gettinf the blame, i know its hard and i know there is seperation anxiety but im not f*n stupid and its not all my fault my son is upset, im trying to do everything i can to make him happy and settled obviously all i want is for my little one to go to school happily as he has to go foe years ahead.. why cant his dad see that im not trying to be detrimental? He just finger points this on me all of the time and when im already feeling so upset about it all and how upset my child is the last thing i nees is someone saying its my fault in the first place and i have ultimately made me son too upset to leave me :'( having a good little sob myself now!
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I just feel so lousy that my little one doesnt want to leave me and that its something iv done or im not doing and then having his dad tell me thats it my fault cements that fear of failure 🙁 he is my absolute world, he is literally everything to me, i struggled so hard to carry a child full term and the pregnancy itself was very hard that i just love him and appreciate having him so much, the thought of failing him is sould destroying to me.. i try to be the best mam every single day because i feel so lucky to be a mum and to have such an amazing little boy 🙁 sorry just venting and ranting i need to get it out of my system and i dont really have anyone support around me and i cant talk to his dad.
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