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    • #33492
      Strube
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      I’m pretty sure my ex is poisoning our children against me and alienating them in the process. I have no concrete proof that he’s doing it, however in the short time our (young) children have been seeing their dad un-supervised, they have completely changed.

      When they first started seeing him again (after a long time of no contact), they seemed happy and enjoyed their time with him. They would come home and there would be no disruptive behaviour.

      Now, our children are filled with animosity towards me and my partner. Everything their dad does is perfect in their eyes — something they never seemed to feel about him prior to being re-introduced to him. They seem to forgive him — even the most inexcusable behavior — while ridiculing me for minor flaws.

      They reject me, call me names, tell me they hate me and don’t want to live me. They show no guilt about their treatment of me. Everyday is a war zone in our house and I can’t do right for doing wrong.

      Has anyone experienced this? Is there any way to prove parental alienation? We have a court order in place – should I seek legal advice?

      Strube x

    • #33496
      KIP.
      Participant

      It won’t do any harm to get some free legal advice. In the meantime try asking them directly why they are behaving in such a hurtful manner. See if they just come out and tell you directly that he is behind it. If you’re too emotionally involved then get a relative to ask them directly. They are learning that behaviour from somewhere. Stay strong. I know how painful this is. As does your ex. ❤️

    • #33553
      Peaceful Pig
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      I really feel for, this is so hard. Kip is right that your ex will know exactly how much it will hurt too. My children have been quite aggressive to me at times, my daughter admits they were ‘evil’ to me at one point. But they found out i loved them anyway and they settled. Hard as it is, the best thing is to stick to firm ground rules about how people treat each other in your home and demand respect. Children really do prefer this, it makes them feel secure. If your ex is planting insecurities in their minds they are bound to test you. If you have extended family or friends around it will really help if they back you up on this too. I’ve never found much help regarding emotional abuse of my children, the best thing has been building my own confidence back up so I can show them they can rely on me to be honest, consistent and a safe base for them. They will definitely prefer this to your ex’s nasty words. Hang on in there xx

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