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Hello I am new and I wondered whether anyone else has been through what I am dealing with right now. I finally left my husband about (detail removed by Moderator) ago after I called the police when he forced entry into the spare room where I had moved into and I left to stay with a friend and then into (detail removed by Moderator), not telling anyone where I had gone. My elderly mother knew nothing as I really didn’t want to worry her and she has always been very critical on what she calls “broken families” so I have never troubled her with my difficulties. My husband was arrested in the middle of the night trying to gain entry into (detail removed by Moderator) having somehow stalked me. (detail removed by Moderator) I don’t know any more yet as this is all very raw and new. I have broken the news to my mother, told her I desperately need her help and she has blamed me for calling the police, says I have always been awkward, she says she doesn’t need me upsetting her as she’s recently lost her husband (who also happened to be my Dad!!). I am just left feeling so alone as basically the two people who were key in my life seem to be on the same side. I have literally had to walk out with no money and nobody, but I have been put in touch with a local women’s abuse support via the police, so I do at least feel better that I am being believed by a wider community. I am just not sure how to move forward. Feeling numb.
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just read your post & really felt for you. although my situation was different it was similar. when i left my ex i was estranged from my mother so i was completely alone. isolated with no friends or family (my ex had obviously turned his family against me which was also devastating). i then had to reach out to my mother as i had nobody, but the stress & anxiety it caused was unreal – it just made me worse. we want the support of our mother so when they either abandon you or cause you just as much pain as your abuser, you feel utterly heartbroken & alone. my mother is n**********c (my ex was also) & i understand these types of people are known to side with an abuser rather than their own flesh & blood. its done intentionally which causes a lot of damage. i, like you reached out to my local domestic abuse network – to be honest i dont know what i would have done without them. so its good that you have them to speak to as they can also advise you on so many other things. i am so very sorry this is happening to you as i know its very very hard when you lose everything all at once, especially the people who thought you could depend upon. just keep reaching out & believing in yourself – know that you are speaking the truth no matter what others are saying. be as strong as you can be & continue talking & posting to people who absolutely believe you & who understand what you are going through. thinking of you a lot & sending you a hug x p.s you are not alone
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