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WARNING THIS POST COULD BE TRIGGERING TO SOME. It has been a while now since I finally left my abusive ex partner. He is an alcoholic and regular drug user. I suffered every type of abuse from this man. My children were witness to this and subject to his emotional abuse. I have tried my upmost to protect them and after a lengthy process I was told I didn’t have enough evidence to prove all of the things that had happened. However it is acknowledged by professionals that my ex is a danger to my children but that he can now have them alone. I am utterly destroyed by this and I don’t know how I can ever trust my children will come to no harm in his care. How do I send my children knowing I am not there to protect them? I know I have done all I can to protect them but I can’t help feeling I’ve let them down and should have stayed to stop them being alone. Also how do I co parent with this person when they still continue to belittle and talk down to me. It is very draining and hard. I’d love to hear from anyone in a similar situation who has any advice. Thank you.
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Hi there it’s been a wee while 🙂this is what happens quite often. I take it this has been decided and an order has been made? So this is where I started off too. He was given unsupervised contact but he couldn’t behave at handover so I got to keep the handover at a contact centre. Not sure hope you guys will hand over but contact centre might be worth contacting? It proved to be a godsend for us. You need to get professional witnesses involved- not sure how old the kids are. Keep a diary of everything- unfortunately You do need to present them for contact BUT if you book the contact centre and the kids get distressed they staff don’t make them go. If this keeps happening it’s often back to court. This can take ages mean time take your kids to see a therapist get her to write to the court. Get WA to work with the kids xx GP can talk to the kids and write to the judge xx cafcass will listen if you have professional opinions backing u. You need solid professional opinions based on fact and without u being there if the kids are old enough so he can’t say you’ve versed the kids. You’ve not alienated them the fact is he is abusive and addicted to drugs – no good for kids mental well being. They might say but kids need two parents for kids to be well rounded
. True to a degree but a lovely grandad or cousin can also teach kids what a good male role model is xx this will work out but will tasks lots of hard work and time xx
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