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I recently left an abusive relationship where I was virtually a prisoner, not let out of his sight very often, although it was verbal abuse, fear and manipulation that he used to keep me near, rather than physical force. I’ve been away from him for (timeframe removed by moderator), and after an initial police incident, things have been quiet, except (timeframe removed by moderator) he called me a few times from his landline, until I blocked him. I already blocked his mobile because of persistent calls. I don’t think he would physically restrain me if he found me, but I can’t be sure and I feel fearful. Even though I’m in a different county and he doesn’t know where I am, he could probably work it out if he was determined enough, which I fear he might become once he thinks he’s “given me space”.
Is there any kind of time frame, where abusers bide their time, until you think you’re safe and then start stalking, or does it tend to be straight away? I know it probably varies for different people, but I wondered if there are any similar patterns to stalking to help assess my risk?
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Hi Sunlight,
It’s understandable that you’re frightened and want to prepare for how his behaviour might develop. As you say, it does vary for different people. You could contact the National Stalking Helpline for some specialist advice and to talk through your concerns.
Take care and keep posting,
Lisa
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