Fed Up

[TheLioness789]

My exit is continuing to abuse me mentally. I’ve left the relationship a long time ago but he’s now doing everything he can to break me down.
How do I stay strong for the sake of my child. Mentally exhausted.
send hugs xx

 

[Lisa]

Hi TheLioness789,

This sounds so difficult, I’m sorry that he’s putting you through it. Unfortunately, abusers will often continue their abuse even after a woman leaves. It’s understandable that you’re feeling overwhelmed and exhausted.

It might help to think about ways that you can limit any contact you have with him, if you’re not able to stop contact entirely. You could look to limit the ways he has of getting in touch, that could be blocking him and saying he can only contact by email, to an email address you only use for him, or asking a third party to be an intermediary. If you need to be reachable when your child is in his care, you could have a separate number on a cheap mobile that you only turn on during those times. These steps would give you some control of when you’re exposed to his abuse, at least.

If you’re not already in touch with them, you might find it helpful to reach out to your local domestic abuse service for some ongoing support.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

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