Feel I may have found another

[I.dont.know.]

I’m starting to notice red flags like him talking about how he used to argue with his ex a lot, how he’s got a fired temper. But says I’ll never see it because I don’t do anything wrong?!

He’s noticed cracks in our relationship so in getting constant txts saying I love you at least 10 times a day. It unnerves me.

I’ve also noticed that if he does something to upset me he will say things like oh it’s coz I miss my kids or some other reason that would make me want to feel sorry for him.

I’ve not got to the point where I think he would physically hurt me but the feeling of anxiety around him is present.

But I don’t know if it’s me and my passed experiences or if I’m right to feel worried

[Strongenough]

I’m sorry, this behaviour would raise red flags to me also. My abusive ex used to say similar things at the start of our relationship. Also the obsessive messages would be a big indicator for concern in my opinion.

Please listen to your gut instinct and contact the police if you ever feel in danger.

[Cedarlemon]

Hi I.don’t.know
I agree whole heartedly that there are definitely Red flags here. My ex abuser told me when I first met him that his ex was very abusive and violent which I found out later wasn’t true, she moved miles away from him to escape his abuse. I used to get 50-100 texts per day at one point and countless calls when he knew I had sussed him out. As Strongenough says please trust your gut instinct and call Police otherwise this will get worse , the feeling of anxiety you have is a big concern X

[gettingtired]

The constant text messages would concern me. My ex used to bombard me with nasty texts but at the start of our relationship he would send me lots of love bombing messages talking about how being me was his paradise, how much he loved me blah blah. I thought I’d met my ‘soul mate’ but he was actually the devil in disguise! Xx

[StrongLife]

Sorry this is happening. If you are concerned please get out of there as soon as you can.

Ex also did this txting many times a day. It became unnerving.

[Hereforhelp]

It is good you have noticed the red flags, you are right to be concerned… the He has A firey temper but you needn’t worry as you don’t do anything wrong? What does he consider wrong? It sounds like a threat… be good or else kinda attitude which is very much a bullies way to speak… the OTT texts, blaming his mood on his children’s behaviour is another massive red flag as he is telling you that it isn’t his fault and that he blames his children or something/someone else… that’s another big wavy red flag….
Also, the anxiety you are feeling… that’s ypur body talking to you…
Question for you I.don’t.know
Have you spoken to him about these concerns and if not why? (Obviously you don’t need to answer, it is a thought is all?
I also am concerned that you say
“I’ve not got to the point where I think he would physically hurt me but the feeling of anxiety around him is present”
It doesn’t have to get worse and if you feel that he might become violent at all please get hold of Womans Aid
Keep posting ❤️

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