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I feel like I’m loosing the plot. My other half keeps blowing up over little things and blaming everything on me, (timeframe removed by Moderator) I said I think you need to get rid of some clothes you have loads. I said it in just a normal tone and he full on went on the defensive and shouting at me.
(timeframe removed by Moderator) I can’t even remember what I did but he was threatening to leave and then threatened to kill himself and he would write on the note that it’s all my fault. He claims I bully him which I know 100% isn’t true! -
Sounds like something my OH would do…he doesn’t blow up though he goes guilt trip mode.
It’s horribly effective isn’t it at keeping us from having any needs.
I wish I knew what the point was…in my OH case it seems to be he feels safer being a victim somehow. Just my perception and not at all verified but nothing is ever his fault.
I too make my partners life hell and these days I rarely mention anything at all, just observe/learn/solidify my reasons for leaving so I have zero regrets or vulnerability if he chases me to go back with the guilt trip assault.
I get the losing the plot thing it’s awful isn’t it. I’ve actually relentlessly googled if I’m a n********t. If I’m abusive. If I am a bully etc etc.
Somehow I doubt they are worrying about that themselves
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It’s really hard when they turn everything around to blame us. Usually I could never even remember the reasons that the argument started.
Its really good that you remembered it was just mentioning that he could get rid of some clothes and ended up with him threatening to end a long term relationship, and then kill himself, over that.
Maybe if we could all remember and post here what the ‘cause’ was of these enormous arguments where we end up being screamed at, verbally flayed, ignored or cold shouldered for days or weeks or physically attacked, it would put it in perspective.
It’s always something trivial isn’t it. Just any old excuse to rip into us.
it adds to the confusion too because I just can’t remember why this holiday was ruined or that day out was trashed, when I look back at it.
I wish I could remember because I think it would help to know.
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