Feel physically unwell

[Footballfan1]

I’m not sure if it’s the dread of Christmas without him for the first time.

I’ve been feeling physically unwell.
I keep dry heaving, feel shaky and unable to sort myself out.
I’ve not even brushed my teeth today.
Yesterday I managed to cook Christmas Dinner by myself for the kids and a family member.
Once all the tasks for Christmas were completed, I just feel like a total wreck.
Xx

[Twix]

I’ve been the same, my weight has plummeted & im struggling to cope. I think it’s the stress of it all. I spent Xmas day alone after dropping child off in the morning. I’ve aged in the last few weeks, don’t recognise myself at all. We should be practicing self care but it’s so hard xx

[Footballfan1]

Hi Twix,

Thank you for your reply.
I’m sorry you were alone for Christmas.
Hopefully you can enjoy your time with your family when you are all together.
X*x

[Twix]

Well done to you for cooking Xmas dinner 🙌 it’s that, that the kids will remember xx

[Reallyconfused]

Well done to both posting on here. The emotion has such a physical impact. It’s the stress hormones wreaking havoc on our bodies.
I am so sorry you are both not feeling well. I am still with the abuser and every Christmas there is conflict. I feel so fatigued like I can’t move.
I make the dinner for the children otherwise i wouldn’t bother I think.
I am emotionally alone too at Christmas. He hates all my family/friends so no one can come and visit and if my family invite us he refuses to go. I don’t go then as he gets in a violent rage.
You are both so strong because you are now not living with the abuser – I know emotion comes in waves but you are still amazing. And things will definitely get better as time goes on.
Keep taking care of yourself with small acts of kindness to ourselves.

[Footballfan1]

Thank-you Reallyconfused,

That is such a nice thing to say.
You are amazingly strong too, living with the abuser is a massive challenge.
At least I go to bed and wake up each day feeling safe, I know that is not possible when you are still under the same roof.
Well done for cooking the Christmas Dinner, like Twix said, the kids will remember that.
You also take care of yourself, do what you can for your mentality.
Try to have a relaxing bath with candles if you can.

I have woken up today feeling tired but more calm, more secure, and hopeful for the future.
Like you said, it’s all the stress hormones.
I’m hoping it’s all settled again now, and I’m mentally preparing myself for similar on new years day.
Take care everyone, we will get through and survive this together x*x

[StrongLife]

Domestic violence can have dreadful effect on mental and physical health. Keep going.

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