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Oh kitty i know how you feel. It is awful to be like this and so difficult to find the comfort, the pair of arms to wrap
Around you and tell you everything will be ok – that’s how I feel but we have to believe it will be ok. I read through the forums in life after and it really does help. Please have a hug from me, albeit cyber 👭 -
Dear Kitty, stay strong you are doing well. You will get justice, in the end. X*X
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Dear Kitty,
I know how you must be feeling.
I have been through it: crying my eyes out at 3 in ther morning, tossing and turning it bed, panic attacks etc.
When I was like this, a friend of mine who had experienced similar three years’ previously promised me that in the end I would ‘rise like a Phoenix.’
I didn’t believe her, but it’s true.
It’s not an overnight thing. There is a hell of a lot to work through. But if you pull out all the stops and get all the help you can ( different kinds ) and reach out to those who are properly supportive, I promise you will gain in strength over time.
Sometimes, you feel you’re making big progress, then it slows down, but you always move on further. I promise you, if you keep hold of hope and faith that you will be ok, you will. The freedom you will feel eventually will be worth all the pain. X
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Hi Kitty
I think you need to take it slow. Uni, plus court, plus pregnancy, plus abortion, plus your ex, plus his family, plus your kids on SG, plus your current partner, plus trying for another baby. It’s all too much no wonder your brain can’t shut off.
The Pill is like the worst contraceptive I’ve ever come across, if you get sick it can be ineffective, if you don’t take it at the same time every day it’s ineffective, if you need other medication, it’s ineffective.
Have an IUD or an implant. Hardly anything effects them and they last 3 to 5 years and that’s enough time to recover to have another baby.
I’m not sure how your recovery from the breakdown has gone but maybe time to revisit the things you learnt and any medication you took until things have calmed down.
Self care is very important. Learn to focus yourself occasionally not your kids or partner. Definitely learn to take the focus off of abuser ex and his family most of the time! They are a disgusting lot.
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This will get better. It takes time, but you will improve. I never thought I would be able to have a normal sleep again. Slowly I start to have longer hours of sleep.
Try to reduce your burden.
Postpone what you can.
Only deal with immediate priorities.
Make a list what you want/have to do and only deal with the unavoidable things now, leave the rest for later.
As long as you do things, they will get done.
After abuse we are in overdrive and instead of getting things done we run on the spot and exhaust ourselves even more.
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