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      Evening all…

      I’m pretty sure I want to leave my husband but I cant help but feel so guilty. I’m living comfortably, in the bedroom in bed and I’m eating well with our daughter and he isnt. I know hes been horrible to me but I feel so bad, hes hurting because he’s realised that i dont want him and i guess I’m not easily manipulated now but i feel like I’m turning in to someone I dont like…

      No point to this just venting x

    • #104429
      Wants To Help
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      That’s because you are a caring person and you don’t like to see other people hurt, suffer or feel bad. However, you made your decision not to want to be with him based on something, and you have every right to see that through. Any relationship that ends will always have some sadness attached to it, because at some point in our relationship there would have been some happy times.

      Do not put his happiness before your own and your child’s. Of course he’s going to hurt, but is that because he’s lost control? Stay strong, follow the path you are creating for a happier future.

    • #104438
      Twiggy
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      Hi all
      Going through a bit of a similar time right now as I have finally got him to leave mine and my children’s home as got to the point I couldn’t see a way out other then to take my own life and that was when I knew enough was enough but now I have told my friends and family about his abusive ways, they all of course hate him for the things he has done to me and because how ill it has made me because I have been trying to get out so long and the only thing I had control over was my eating and him wanting me to be bigger and more curvy so now I am a bag of bones but some who still feel guilty about making him leave our home and the children as is has always been so good with them, but he has told me after speaking to his friends that I’m the crazy one and I apparently was lucky I didn’t get hurt more as I wouldn’t ever back down when he started and because I would fight back I was told if I’m big enough to hit him back I’m big enough to take it. But know I have the guilt trip from his family telling me he was in a bad place or must have been stressed and because hes so good with the kids(2 of the 3 that arnt his) but he still wants wants to see them and take them on days out and I just cant say no, and just feel like everything is my fault that i have ruined our family

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