Hey Hun
That is part of their game to break us down, they upset us so much then turn the sweetness on as if their bad behaviour never even occurred. It is happening and u have to acknowledge it before u go into denial to cope which is where they really mess with our heads. I know u are prob finding this all draining, if im right in remembering this is your second abusive partner so u know how the cycle works, get in touch with support agencies to help you again