Feeling desperate

[Wantingpeace]

I can’t stand feeling like this. At the begining of the week I felt that overwhelming need to run back to him and now I find myself absolutely hating the man with all the horrid twisted texts he keeps sending. I went to the police station and had a right meltdown saying I couldn’t cope with the mental torture. I just want it all to end but I’m stuck with this torture until we can sell the house and god knows how long that will take . I feel absolutely desperate to get him as far away from me as possible.

[Glasshalf]

Hello, i just want to say that i really hear you and get what you are going through.
I’m also currently stuck living with him.
Please try to take time for youself. Can you go and stay with family or friends?
Things that have helped me: writing down how I am feeling. Doing something else so I’m not thinking about my horrible situation all the time. Clarifying my short term and long term goals and keeping them in mind.
Hope this helps. Take care of yourself! Xx

[Wantingpeace]

Thank you Glasshalf. I’m currently staying with my parents whilst he is in the house. There is no way I want to be under the same roof as him. I’m actually having a better day today. I done something positive with my son and have been to see some new build houses. I know it’s early days as my house is only just about to go on the market but it felt so good to do something for me, my boy and our future x
I hope you can find your way out of it soon.
Big hugs sent xx

[Twisted Sister]

Hi Wantingpeace

What a horrible situation. There is no reason you should have to move out due to his behaviour, but it does make sense to have your own space for your own safety (and sanity!). Your alternative could be an occupation order, quoting some of the latest/worst incidents with him, so that you at least have your own home to live in whilst you go through the selling process. IDK what the market is like at the moment, as I have heard that property prices are falling, year on year, which may mean it takes a bit longer to get a whole chain complete before you can get your sale really going.

I hope you can find a way out very soon.

warmest wishes

ts

[Wantingpeace]

Hi ts.
To be fare I feel safer at my parents as they are on (detail removed by moderator) with lots of neighbours. My house is right out in the sticks miles away from anyone. Even if I could turf him out I would be scared stiff being out there on my own. I just hope to god it sells very quickly x
Take care x

[Twisted Sister]

Its best you are where you feel safest, like you say, being isolated where he knows where you are could be greater risk, yes, and I hope your much needed sale will happen soon.

Did you find the police helpful? Have they made a report on him? You could get a non-molestation because of the harm he’s causing you.

warmest wishes

ts

[Wantingpeace]

Yes the police have made a report on him. I keep meaning to look into the Claires law thing as I know he has a past of domestic abuse but the couple of times that I’ve been to the police recently i get in such a state that I forget to ask x
They have got enough evidence to arrest him but because of the house situation I’m trying to hold out. As soon as I sell and I certainly won’t be holding back x

[Twisted Sister]

You’ve done so well to report your experiences, it takes a lot of courage to do that. You seem to have your plan in place, so, good on you, and I hope this happens super quick.

Do keep writing if you need, and getting support, all the support you can.

warmest wishes

ts

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