Feeling flat

[Anon321123]

I went out (detail removed by Moderator) with some friends from work which I haven’t done for absolutely ages. My husband wasn’t overly keen on the idea but I went anyway.
While I was out he called me a number of times and sent some messages telling me I only think of myself and not to bother coming home.
I was late back as there were no taxis and by the time I got in he’d put a key in both the front and back door so I couldn’t get in. So I had to wake him up by shouting and hammering on the door. When I got in I thought I’d sleep downstairs because I didn’t want to deal with him and he followed me back upstairs before hitting me in the back of (detail removed by Moderator). I called the police and they came out to arrest him. As I was on the phone he went and brought the kids downstairs so they were with me when the police came. I had a chat with one officer while he had a chat with another and he told them I wasn’t fit to have the kids because I was drunk and got his (detail removed by Moderator) to come get them.
He’s been locked up since about (detail removed by Moderator) and after I gave a statement and told them almost everything including all his controlling behaviour they’ve interviewed him and got a completely different story so he’s just been released with nfa. I feel so flat like I’ve not been believed and now I don’t know if he’ll just turn up back at the house. It’s also taken me most of the day to get the kids back from his (detail removed by Moderator) because she thinks I’m ruining the kids Xmas.

[Lisa]

Hi Anon321123,

I am sorry to hear about what has happened with your husband. I hope it has helped to post on the forum. It is understandable you feel flat after going through the incident with the police and then no action being taken. It may not feel like it now but you did the right thing by contacting the police about the abuse; the incident will be logged. Do you have support in place or somewhere safe to go with the children if he returns home?

If you feel like you are in need of some additional support, you could chat to a Women’s Aid worker in confidence via our Live Chat service (open every day). They won’t tell you what to do, but can discuss your situation and signpost you to other support that’s relevant for you. You can access the chat service here:
https://chat.womensaid.org.uk/

Please do keep posting when you can.

Best wishes,

Lisa

[Anon321123]

Thank you. I don’t have anywhere I can go but I am considering taking out a non molestation order against him. I’m just waiting to hear back from a legal perspective on it. I did have a call from victim support today but didn’t manage to speak to them because I was at work.
Work are also aware of the situation. (They have ways of finding these things out) so I feel quite well supported otherwise. It does help to write things on here though too.

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