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I find that even after so many years, I still feel lonely. Not just because I’m single, but lonely because no one understands unless they have been through what I have been through. My friends try, they really do, but telling me that perhaps I need counselling doesn’t help, it just makes me feel patronised as if I’m not clever enough to know what I need. I’ve had counselling and yes, it did help, but I had to work my way through a number of counsellors to find the right one! Counsellors also only really understand what you need if they can indenting with what you’re feeling. Many counsellors don’t always get that.
Does anyone else feel that counselling doesn’t always last? Do you find that what you’ve been through can sometimes come back with a vengeance and play on your mind even yeas after you’ve managed to move away from your abuser?
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Hi Western cloud
this is so normal at begining to miss them, we become attached to them even though they are the abusers, stick to no contact and slowly it will get easier, u have to focus on why u left, post on here as much as u need to , support really does help and i always found ladies on website underrstood as had experienced, read up on abuse , go on the freedom course and try cousnelling with a domestic violence counsellor.
What next – Hi hun , Yes supoose i get days where i feel lonely too, just desperately want that male company just for hug, chat and intimacy, i think cause of our past expereince we are a lot on guard, have heard some people do get lucky agsin, sorry to hear your nfriends dont understand, sadly unless u have experienced abusive partner, no matter how supportive u try to be u just dont get it. For mne cousnelling really helped, was yours specialized in domestic violence, i found that made a massive difference, and maybe continue with counselling till u feel u have dealt with all the issues
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