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    • #30381
      Liquorice
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      Things were getting so good, i tried really hard with everything and i didnt even feel that worn out with it all this time, was starting to feel like myself again thought i had it in tbe bag, i can be a good wife and mum. But no, i had to go and mess it up didnt I, rubbed it in his face about family visiting and wanting me to go out with them for a bit as ive not seen anyone for ages. I didnt mean to sound selfish and i totally didnt mean i wanted to be away from him or anything that he said, but he just wont have it, im a selfish cow who just wants to go out and be wild all the time i dont deserve to be a mum, our baby would be better of without me…and so on …we were getting on so well, hardly any glitches for over a week…grrrrrr what the hell is wrong with me why cant i just be normal.

    • #30615
      Liquorice
      Participant

      Its been such a long few days, why when things are bad do the days and nights, mainly the nights, take so long to pass. He really hurt me last night and hasnt left my side since, thankfull for a few minutes peace whilst hes walking the dogs…i feel like im suffocating, does anyone else get this feeling when its rough??

    • #30616
      KIP.
      Participant

      You have done nothing wrong. He is an abuser. He is making you think it’s all your fault. It is not. You could be the most perfect wife ever and he would still find something to abuse you about. He’s frightened you will tell someone about his illegal abusive behaviour so he is keeping you close. You need to speak to the helpline or your local women’s aid X

    • #30912
      Lucyloo
      Participant

      Thought I’d comment as the title sums me up right now ” feeling sad”
      None of these things are right lAdies or our fault either… Sat here with a black eye… Bruised back an leg almost sure a broken rib feeling sorry for myself yet I can’t & im not strong enough to leave from the monster!
      This time was the worst it’s ever been..
      Completely controlled by him
      I feel I’m getting stronger by being on here? Maybe? I hope!
      I’m not aloud on social media I miss it an really want to be on there
      Why am I putting up with this!!!! :((

    • #30915

      You will get through Lucyloo, keep posting, reading and sharing your thoughts and experiences. XXXX

    • #30922
      Lucyloo
      Participant

      I really really hope so…,

    • #30937
      Velveteenbun
      Participant

      Jesus…well i have just stopped feeling sorry for myself. I don’t even know what to say Lucy, sending very gentle hugs. I don’t even know how these men get away with this.

      Liqourice….sounds exactly like my ex. I am always a bad mother. I don’t care about our child, our son is better with him, i neglect him. Whenever i wanted to go out while we were together i got the same of it. He let me go out with my family, they weren’t the threat to him but my work friends god i was never allowed out. You are not selfish this is not about you or your behaviour this is about him and throwing his toys out the pram because you want to do something that doesn’t revolve around him.

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