Feels like no one cares

[Sad and alone]

I had a bad time (timeframe removed by Moderator). The worst for a long time. As a result I contacted a relative and said we’d argued. To share this is new for me as usually I cover it up. I haven’t disclosed the extent of our problems, but still. I told them two bad things they had done. Not physical. Destruction of my property. They said leave, come to them, they’d send me money, sounded like he’d lost the plot. If I hadn’t had responsibilities during the week I may have done. I said maybe I will after I’ve done what I have to.
The next day they didn’t even ask how I was. They must have gauged the situation as being more than a little argument. Obviously I never went to theirs either, or mentioned it, but equally they didn’t follow up with me and ask if I was coming. A week later and they still haven’t asked how things are. Even though in an unrelated matter I asked them to order something for me. Just said that was okay and when they’d done it.
It feels almost like I dreamt telling them. Even though I can see the messages. (I couldn’t speak on the phone about it.) He tells me no one cares about me and maybe he’s right.

[Lisa]

Hi Sad and alone,

Thank you for sharing with us. You have taken a huge step by reaching out to your relative and disclosing some of what happened. Your relative’s response is supportive by offering you a place to stay and some financial support. It is understandable you feel let down they haven’t checked in with you since- perhaps they don’t want to pressure you or they feel unable to ask.
Try not to let his words win- you are cared for and there is support for you. Keep posting to us when you can- we understand how lonely things can feel.

Best wishes,

Lisa

[Sad and alone]

Thank you Lisa. Ironically my relative did message me the day after I posted this and asked how things were going. Maybe you are right and they didn’t want to intrude. I think maybe because I know how awful that day was, how long and exhausting and all the rest of it, it felt like a big issue but they didn’t know the whole story. I don’t have many people in my life and this is the person I would turn to first and with him saying no one cares about me it probably got in my head.

[StrongLife]

I understand this sentiment. It’s hard to know what to say at times.

If one person does not help out keep reaching out.

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