Finding it hard to process

[Mellow]

I’ve been with this man for years and I’ve never known how to explain his behaviour the first thing I noticed was him invalidating my feelings by kissing me or something this went on for years I felt like conflict never got resolved and he used to not answer questions and deflect a lot but behaviour seemed to get worse when we met he he always on phone but it started to get worse one time I noticed someone sending personal photos to his iPad and the first time we got together he had photos of his ex on I caught him looking or so he says now I think what a t**t I was accepting this and his lies.after that what really said I’m done after we have now had kids he has been publicly showing affection for another woman and posting it on media so I can see it and other people he has also written sexual things on the posts I m now left thinking who have I been engaged to my whole life has been a lie we planned children even lost some on the way he was my backbone I thought I was building a life for him but it suddenly came to a stop when I realised he got what he wanted out of me but it’s only now I’m realising since he got worse and seems to have more women but I’m his main woman there are some here I think and some abroad and I can’t live like this I will leave but I’m heartbroken that we planned kids together and this is my life my child is just a baby

[Mellow]

And he just keeps saying he dosent know what I want I want you to stop what your doing with these women why dosent he understand and he can’t do it when asked I’m ignored or told he’s known them for years and can’t stop

[Mellow]

I don’t even think it’s sexual but I will never know but he’s emotionally connected to them

[Mellow]

Even defend them when I say something horrible out of anger he says I shouldn’t say that it’s not nice but it’s not nice what he’s done to me like I don’t matter

[Newgirl]

I don’t think you should have to put up with this I’m so sorry lovely x I’m sure he wouldn’t like it if you had other men you were connected too! You need to do what makes you happy and if he won’t take what you are saying on board then he doesn’t respect you x x x it’s hard but take time and put you first x x x

[searchingforhope]

Newgirl is right. Take time and put you first. None of what he is doing is right. You deserve far better x*x

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