Finished it, then he threatened to kill us both.

[Purpledrops]

So been in a long term relationship. Have two kids together and I have an adult son. Things haven’t been good for (detail removed by moderator). He’s been out of work. Since the beginning of our relationship he used to sext other women. Found him on dating sites. Confronted him. He got angry. Downplayed it, to him it wasn’t cheating. It hurt me. He’s always been difficult to talk to about important stuff. Would become defensive, twist things, lie. He’s hit things in anger. Kicked my bedroom door off its hinges last month. Anyway sick of his lies, him being manipulative. (detail removed by moderator) he went weird said he’d stalk me. No-one else could have me. So tried again briefly. (detail removed by moderator) he threatened to kill us both in the car. Drove aggressively, breaked hard. (detail removed by moderator) I was so frightened and in disbelief. Then just this last week he threatened my eldest son (detail removed by moderator) All in front of our daughter. Horrible time at the moment. Oh and he has threatened to kill himself numerous times. Sigh. Was advised since the threats to inform the police. I have.

[Twisted Sister]

Hi Purpledrops

No wonder you were so frightened and shocked, all thats he’s done to threaten you physically with breaking things and the emotional blackmail (threatening suicide), and now he’s threatened to kill you too.

How are you doing? It sounded like you didn’t leave as a result of his threats? If you still wanted to I would suggest you now try to do it quietly, without him knowing, or contact the police to report his death threats and that you don’t feel safe, trying to leave, but with death threats he could be potentially removed from the home and bailed to not return?

There’s a chat facility here that you could access to speak to a female worker who can help you to plan and leave safely, or the best ways to stay safe around him regardless of whether you leave.

warmest wishes

ts

[Purpledrops]

Hi, yes the threat was after I finished it. He was still living under the same roof for a bit, but I found the courage to pack his stuff and told him not to return. Tried to be amicable regarding seeing the kids, but he then threatened my eldest son to. I have informed the police.
Thanks for your reply.

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