from bad to worse.. need your support

[abcxyz]

Awful day and awful evening. No longer need to worry about catalyst to go as have reasons by the bucket. Can not wait to be free … Pls tell me it gets a bit easier once you are not under the same roof. Shocked at how the person I married has become such a manipulative horrible person and that his own family act like the things he says and does are ok. Will contact solicitor on monday to get divorce moving. …need to be strong and think of how to move us out for a bit without worrying the kids. Gone are the ideas of a note etc. … I just want to go xx

[Lisa]

Hi abcxyz,

I just wanted to show you some support. You are being so strong in such a stressful situation. Please do phone the helpline as soon as you get a safe time to do so to think about some safety planning as leaving an abusive relationship can be a dangerous time.

We are all here for you.

Best wishes,

Lisa

[abcxyz]

Thank you. … This forum and the phone line have been a god send x

[Racoon]

Just like to offer more support and a bit more extra strength. It is such a difficult, stressful and scary time. In my experience yes escaping an abusive relationship did release the relentless debilitating exhausting pressure of the abusive relationship. It’s a rocky road ahead but there is light at the end of the tunnel.
I hope you managed to get a plan together with the helpline.

[Serenity]

Hi There,

You sound like me- I just decided one day to that the following Monday would be the day I began divorce proceedings, and I went and did it. I just wanted that leech away from me.

I echo what has been said, above, that you need to be careful. These abusers like to have control, and don’t like you taking the the control back. If you are to leave and inform him of a divorce, please do so in away that ensures your safety.

Xx

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