Getting out

[Better-days]

I used to think no way could I ever leave would be too much to put everyone through it all. I know the first place he will go is my poor parents. But I need out I’m doing a life sentence anyway. He made me leave a family event (detail removed by moderator) just because he was on his own. I can’t take anymore. Can anyone advise my next step in going to open up to some family.

[Strongenough]

Sorry to hear of your situation, opening up is the first step and in my experience a huge relief. It’s a very brave thing to do and well done for reaching this point. You might want to make a long term practical plan, where your going to live if your leaving etc and look at a safety plan. You local women’s aid can help with safety planning. Please take their advice as leaving an abusive relationship increases risk of further harm.

I hope your family are supportive and can help you, and remember you have lots of strong supportive women here on this forum. Good luck.

[Better-days]

Thanks for the reply there is so much to consider and it terrifies me especially putting my family at any harm but I know they will understand. That’s why I don’t want to go to my parents it’s the first place he will go. I will contact woman’s aid on Monday. X

[–Titanium–]

Hey! I know exactly how you feel, I’m leaving (detail removed by Moderator) and I know the first thing he will do is go to my parents too, it’s terrifying me. They are still being supportive, I’ve told them to just call the police is he hassles them but it doesn’t make me feel any better, it makes me stay just for that reason, but I know they would rather put themselves through it to see me happy in the long run. I’m going to give them a friends number that lives locally for any problems and they have made plans for the first few days so they will be out of the house for quite a bit of it. It’s not nice, but it will be worth it in the long run. Stay strong xx

[Better-days]

Thanks for reply titanium it means a lot. Your so brave iv not made a plan yet feel as though through the support here I could do it. Please keep in touch and let us know how things are when you leave stay safe xxxx

[–Titanium–]

Thank you… I’m definitely not feeling brave right now, but you’re right, the support on here is amazing! Keep in touch and stay strong xx

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