Going on holiday

[Anonymous]

I had some fantastic news iam getting my ESA money bk dated from (detail removed by moderator) last year after winning my appeal .I’ve decided I need a holiday so iam going away to my home town with my little dog very soon. . think is iam staying at my mum’s it’s going to trigger me as I was abused in this village also abused in the same house where iam staying .I have to be so strong and try move forward but at the same time iam so scared I won’t be able to handle it .. and if I see my brother and going to have to try keep it together as he abused me .. it’s something I not sure how I going to react
I held it for years .And my ex brought that trauma bk .. I know I can do this iam a strong warrior

[Ayanna]

Do I understand that you go for a holiday to the place where you suffered abuse?

Why?

Why don’t you book a £300 holiday on Expedia to Tenerife or so?

[Anonymous]

Because it’s were my family are and not seen them for over (detail removed by moderator) years hun x

[Anonymous]

I love my family ayanna it’s so hard but also I have to try move forward from my past x

[Positiveandlookingahead]

Hi there I see what you are saying and where you are coming from but having a break and then being close to someone who made you feel the same way could be damaging for you and may do more harm than good. Have you considered maybe doing a spa weekend or something completely for yourself which will relax and pamper you? X*x

[Anonymous]

I will be fine I just need to see my family I don’t think my brother would show up anyway because he knows we have never seen eye to eye . He’s always been distant from me and if he does show up I will go out xx

[Lilminx]

Just a personal opinion but I think your stark raving mad, getting out of an abusive relationship then going back to not only the town where you were previously abused but yo them home where you were abused, sorry but yo me that’s not moving forward that’s taking another leap backwards, it’s like your living in the past and feel the need to go back , like one abusive situation wasn’t good enough you wasn’t more …
I understand it’s also where your family is , but surely wait a while longer until things are back to normal ish in your current life then invite them to you , go somewhere else for a holiday and enjoy the stress free holiday , you will be on tender hooks holidaying with family in case your brother turns up , it’s just so not a good idea .

[Anonymous]

I know what everyone saying here .My ex tried to rip me away from the family who love me . I have not seen my daughter or grandkids nor my mum for over (detail removed by moderator) yrs . I lived with the secret for over (detail removed by moderator)yrs for what my brother did to me. I need my daughter and grandkids I’ve missed them so so much . I know it’s been a roller coaster for (detail removed by moderator)mnths being homeless fighting for my benefits etc . It’s a week . Iam doing this for me warriors if I don’t try move forward now I will bottle it! Please support guys iam doing this for me and the love of my daughter grandkids and my mum xx

[Lisa]

Hi Iamfree,

I really do understand, sometimes it can be very healing to return to a place that holds lots of memories, good and bad but I do understand that some of the forum members are concerned that this might be upsetting for you. It is your choice, I do understand needing to see family and I hope that will be lovely for you but perhaps you could think about staying near by rather than in a place that may be triggering for you. It is up to you, you are a very brave and determined lady and that is very inspirational.

Whatever you decide, we are all here for you.

Best wishes,

Lisa
Forum Moderator

[Anonymous]

Thanks Lisa

I got all the support I need to see it through .If things are to much I will leave I will be fine

[Serenity]

Good luck, I Am Free, but maybe plan to leave if your brother turns up!

I understand that you don’t want your other family relationships to suffer. x

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