Gone down hill

[Tenerifeseaoth]

Hey,

The last few weeks have felt like I have gone back to the start. Where the anxiety and fear have taken over and I can’t make sense of anything. I feel like every time I take a step forward, I end up being dragged back miles.

He met someone new and recently she has reached out to me because of his behaviour. The same behaviour he had exhibited to me, he has done so with her also. When she reached out, I wasn’t sure what to do, but for me, if when I had left this situation, I had someone who had experienced the same person and could talk me through what had happened and to help make sense of it, while understanding what I meant and how it felt, I think it would have helped. So, I let her talk.

Since she reached out, we have sat down together a few times and I have tried to help her deal with the emotions, what may come and have pointed her in the direction of some places that she can get long term support. On the back of this, I have found out information that I’m not sure how I should feel about and I just wanted to talk it through with some people who may be able to either just listen or help me make sense of it.

I found out that he has shown this now ex girlfriend nude photos of me, sexual videos of me I didn’t know he had taken and he has on his phone, (detail removed by Moderator). This girl knows stuff about me I had only told him in confidence when things ‘were good’, about my upbringing and (detail removed by Moderator). She knows my biggest secrets and the things I’m most ashamed of and it’s a horrible feeling.

(detail removed by Moderator). Along with that, he bragged to her that he used to get kicks out of the fact he was sleeping with me and then go out and be with other girls (I didn’t know this).

I feel dirty and used and just not at all good enough. The nightmares started to fade but now they are back in full force and I feel like no matter how hard I try, I can’t escape him. I’m scared, he blames me for a lot of his life falling apart, when I left him and reported him for assault, (detail removed by Moderator), he’s told her that I’ve ruined everything. He’s a drinker and drug user and with those things and his general behaviour, I don’t know what his next move will be, he’s unpredictable.

I don’t know what to do, or where to turn from here.

I’m sorry to ramble and unload. I just needed to get it off my chest.

thank you,
x

[Hereforhelp]

Hi, I amnso sad for you reading what he has done, hiw he still invades your life… I believe it is illegal for him to be showing sexual vids without your consent, maybe report him to the police for this?
I also worry you are meeting his new GF, as if they are still together would she be sharing more with him about you? Is she a flying monkey? Maybe have a word with Womans Aid idk… I am no expert but a friend of mine went through something similar and eventually reported him to her local police… he got a warning and his phone taken to be checked …
How are you feeling today?
Big hugs love HFH ❤️

[Tenerifeseaoth]

Thank you for your support HFH, it means a lot.

I have spoken to the police now. I understand your concerns and really do appreciate it, they aren’t together anymore and I am careful with what I say and disclose, trust doesn’t come easy these days I guess.

I’m feeling flat but trying to work through it.

Thank you again. Sending love,
TSO xx

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