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I finally got out! Have a lovely little house with the children and I can’t explain the relief. It’s still very fresh, but my life now compared to last year is so different. I can finally come home and relax. Knowing that no matter what happens in the future with child contact and separation of assets, I have somewhere safe to be. It’s taking a long time to believe this is real, and the feeling of not deserving this is hard to shake. And the triggers, they just come when I least expect them.
I just hope that if I can help anyone that they know I’m here. I’ve got some absolutely lovely ladies supporting me (here and in real life) and I’m so grateful xx -
This warms my heart. I love reading these posts. Well done you. For me I was so close so ao close but he has pulled me back and now im stuck unhappier than Ive ever been before but reading these gives me fresh hope.
Never forget how amazing you are how strong and how much you have been through I guess its not always gonna be easy but at least now you are safe. Ahhh I just love this. Sending you all the best and a big olde hug xx -
That is so lovely to hear, those moments of silence and peace compare with nothing else, even if they are only moments to start with, it does get better 🙂
nbumblebee, the fact that you realise is massive and unfortunately it takes alot of gradual chipping away and if and when the time comes, you will look back and know that you tried your best. I always knew that I had to be in a place whereby I knew 100% that I tried everything, that I could look back confidently and say ‘I tried’, but we all only get one life and we deserve to live a happy one. Sadly it can take a while for that feeling to snap into place. Sending you lots of love xx
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Nbumblebee, I stayed for a lot longer than I should have, but I guess I needed to be completely done before leaving as I knew I couldn’t go back. Be kind to yourself, it’s so easy to be pulled back in with many promises and the hope that it will be better. One day I just realised that I had 2 choices, he had worn me down to the point of feeling so empty, useless, and believing the world would be better without me, or I could leave and put my kids and myself first and build a new life. I think I had to get to that point or I couldn’t have left. I’ve found some of the best things I have done is once I was making plans to leave I started to write down episodes straight after they happened. A lot of the worst times I have just blanked out. I know these things happened, but I cannot recall them, my memory is absolutely shattered. He tried so hard to get me to stay, but I knew if I didn’t take this chance, I would be stuck forever. Just keep safe and keep talking, whatever you decide, know that others know exactly what you are going through.
Thank you for all the kind words. After getting our home, I think I have struggled with the aftermath of all the stress. I just feel so tired, I’m just sleeping all the time. Living on edge and flight or flight for so many years and not getting a moment to reflect, is very surreal.
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