Have I made the right choice

[Anonymous]

He is saying not to do this to him again as I have left. I really hope I have made the right choice. feel like I love him and he’s telling me he needs me right now what am I supposed to do why is this so hard. I don’t want to fall back again but feeling weak. He has called me a b***h aswell so why do I feel sorry for him?

[KIP.]

He’s playing mind games. You need to block him on everything and have zero contact.

[KIP.]

He is showing his true self by calling you names. Please ring the police if he turns up. You’re brainwashed into feeling sorry for him. That’s what abusers do.

[Anonymous]

Thank you kip. I just feel so confused. I left as I could not trust him anymore. Did not even go on the holiday I booked with him because of the way he does not reassure me and I worry sick every time he stays out all night and does not call or text. I worry henis back on the drugs or drinking it is sob difficult to trust him. Then he calls me a b***h like I am nothing. To say that to me out of anger is so low. He promised he would never swear at me again. I’m the one who needed him this month as my injunction ends on my xx so afraid and I am going to have to deal with that on my own now. He has pushed me so far. I just wish he considered my feelings and the worry he causes me. I just don’t want to cry over this anymore!

[freedomtochoose]

don’t cry over it anymore hon, you have the door open to make a new and wonderful like.
Go girl
x

[freedomtochoose]

life I meant

[Sad sunflower]

Yes honey, you made the right choice. Just think of how amazing it’s going to be to get over this and start a new life where you will not have to worry about him not calling when he stays out all night, where no one calls you names. Trust me, the promises these men make are worth nothing.

[KIP.]

You’re stronger than you know. I dealt with injunctions and worse without another man in my life. I honestly think it was easier that way. Only myself to consider and it built my confidence and self esteem. If I can do it, you can easily do it too. You don’t need a man in your life you cry over. My sister told me after a bad relationship that the first time she cries over a new man then he is dumped. Good advice. As Tom Hardy says in his poster against domestic abuse, a good man smears a woman’s lipstick, not her mascara.

[Chickadee]

Because it is control. And the abuser manipulates for you to feel sorry for them. Playing on your good character and emotions.

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