have you felt this too?

[Chocolatebunnie]

Sorry Ive posted lots all of a sudden, but just looking for some clarity

Do you stay because you feel you are hyperfocusing on the abuse, you convince yourself that its not that bad you are the problem, making it up, its past trauma?

Do you stay becuase you are afraid that you are getting it wrong, that relationships have difficulties and that is what this is, that you are making a mistake and never get over it, that this is actually some form of love?

Have you felt this?

[IceCube]

Yes!

[Ricepudding]

Hi Chocolatebunnie yes I hear what you are saying and feel the same

[IceCube]

Dont be sorry for posting. I know exactly how u feel. Its very confusing. I’m new to this forum but all the posts are so relatable that its really helping me clarify my feelings. I’ve been married for a long time and u sort of get used to the cycle of abuse. Its a hard word to use but that’s what it is, I’ve only just realised. Years of making excuses for them, thinking they have a mental illness or ADHD etc. First tension, walking on egg shells, then the outburst followed by calm, lovebombing…..repeat.

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