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Over the course of a number of years, I received one gift for one birthday. Never anything over Christmas. Now we are no longer together, I have received a Christmas gift. No idea why or whether it’s a tactic to keep being in touch or to make me think about him or whether it’s a genuinely kind gesture. It was thoughtful gift but it depends whether it was sinister thought or positive thought! Either way, it’s weird.
also why I’m moving away. Even if he is blocked, he still knows where I live.
anyone else had this!?
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Hi Happybelle,
I never received very many gifts or cards from my ex either. He did send some chocolates to one of my family this Christmas and last. I see it as manipulation on his part. He might be trying to pull me back in or have my family think that he is wonderful. I’m ignoring it but I wonder if he will escalate attempts to contact me now that his gift gesture didn’t work.
It’s not easy is it? Good luck with your move. Mine knows where I live but so far he hasn’t turned up at my door. Fingers crossed that he never does. Nor yours either.
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‘Love bombing’ is a tactic a perpetrator will use to attempt to lure you back into a relationship or to make it seem as if they have changed. I didn’t get any gifts throughout my abusive marriage and all the pretend gifts/or ‘love bombing’ came once he knew that he couldn’t manipulate me anymore. Be careful and take measures to protect yourself and please stay safe.
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My ex does this – never remembered anniversaries or valentines day all the time we were together – but sends cards/gifts/flowers via our adult son.
Sometimes there’s even a letter on there with all his “pity me” info on what’s going on in his life
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