He is Trying to get full custody

[123cali]

Hi,

My ex abused me both emotionally and sexually. I had a hearing for a child arrangement order after he claimed I didn’t let him see the child (it was his choice not to see the child).
He has been seeing her as I was too scared and emotionally scarred to go to a fact finding hearing last time.
He keeps threatening me with court and abducting her if I don’t comply to his orders. This time I didn’t comply to his orders and he has taken me to court with loads of lies (removed by moderator).
I am so terrified because he is using the court system to continue the abuse and if he gets full custody he will use it to terrorise me and my son is terrified of him and I’m so worried what it will do to him! My son reports he often throws him out the house when he is mad (my son is only (removed by moderator)).
Has anyone else experienced anything like this and what were the outcomes? I’m so worried to not have him live with me

[Breadandroses]

Hi
I did not experience it on this scale.
I experienced court and the lies and the trying to argue for custody at the start.
CAFFCASS can be requested to do their own report.
You can start to keep a diary of everything that is texted to you, said to you by him or your children. You can ask schools to make statements by I found they were reluctant.
You need good legal advice. It is expensive. I have no idea about legal aid. I know it is hard to get.
Do remember he will be asked to evidence what he is saying. He can t just say things have happened. Where is his evidence?
Unfortunately neither can you. So how do you prove the abuse? Maybe others can help you here. But I used to have people with me at all handovers after a while and would ask him to write down any issues he had with my parenting etc and send them to my solicitor when I had one.
He will have to show he can look after your son too. He will be scruntisef too. They forget that.
I was told and again I am not an expert do you would have to get independent advice that the courts put the child first and do not want to cause unnecessary disruption to them so they need a lot of convincing to radically change custody.
Unfortunately you have to trust a system that is bring used against you. That is hard.

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