- This topic has 11 replies, 4 voices, and was last updated 5 years, 6 months ago by
.
-
Posts
-
-
IV told my husband that I’m not with him anymore but he won’t move out and insists that we are friends(for the kids.) But he constantly asked me to try again with him and cries at me all the time today he rang me from work saying (detail removed by moderator). I feel as though I have to say yes because he is actually sobbing and inconsolable. He has no one else in the world just me and the kids.
-
He knows exactly what he’s doing to you. Emotionally abusing you. He is holding down a job. They have two faces. One for us where they play the victim. Yet he manages to live a life. (detail removed by moderator). If he’s depressed he should be engaged with his GP and therapy. While you have contact, you will be manipulated and abused. My ex was crying and begging to my face, yet cheating on me behind my back. They are accomplished liars. Don’t believe a word he says. Work on getting away from him. If he won’t move out, it’s up to you to find somewhere to go. Renting privately. It’s going to get much worse for you. It never works living with an abuser when trying to end things. For one thing it’s very dangerous x
-
-
-
He has no right to tell you what to do! Who does he think he is?!
You message and talk with whomever you see fit honey, you can go out with other men, it is your life, your choice. He has lost any rights to your love and attention the moment he chose to abuse you.
Are you in contact with Women’s Aid? You’ll need all the support you can get to end this safely.
💕 -
His anti depressants and counselling aren’t working. Certainly not around you. He can go back and get some more counselling. Depression doesnt cause abusive and controlling and manipulating behaviour. Him not wanting you to talk to or see other men is jealous and controlling. Saying he won’t take you back if you do is a threat and a bluff. He is ignoring your wishes and your decision and hoping he will change your mind which I’m sure has happened in the past. When he finally realises you don’t want him, things will escalate very quickly x stay safe x
-
He said he wants to talk later again it will probably be another long talk about how he wants me back and he has changed. He is very convincing though. I feel sorry for the kids they are seeing all this but they can’t see what he is doing. IV got an appointment with the police on Thursday morning to report all of this (detail removed by moderator).
-
I was right first asking me back and then when I said no he said we were going to split finances and I had to find half the rent for the month when I don’t work. I take care of the kids. Then he was saying how he’s going to have a word with a bloke over school tomorrow that he thinks I’m having an affair with. Then he was trying to use the kids to get back with me he said they said they were terrified I was going to take them away from him but they said not to tell me. He said how I’m not allowed to have visitors without his permission and I’m not allowed to take them down to the family Christmas party this year. I feel drained now after listening to all this he always says I’m cold hearted. Sorry I’m going on a bit tonight but I know you all understand. And give good advice I think I need to find some guys and sort things out now the kids are back at school.
-
Your husband and my partner are so alike, using the same tactics! I get the ‘feel sorry for me’ treatment and when that doesn’t work he uses other tactics like threats of public shaming, using the children and now refusing to sell our house leaving me stuck! No real advice, but I know how it feels, exhausting 🙁
-
My ex did the split the finances thing too. Even though he knew I couldn’t afford it. It’s another coercive control trick. He thinks by rubbing your nose in the fact you’re financially dependent on him, you will change your mind. Then the threats to embarrass you with this other man. Another attempt at getting you to change your mind and hook you back in. His behaviour is escalating and he will physically hurt you when he can’t regain control. Tell the police everything and ask if they will talk to him about leaving the home. You’re going to see the real man soon as his mask slips. From his sobbing and inconsolable act to his threatening behaviour and veiled threats. Don’t believe a word he says x it’s going to get much worse. Keep in touch with your local women’s aid. You may need a refuge x
-
-
It’s designed to make you feel s**t. Any reasonable man who was told the relationship was over would move out. He’s staying around you for a reason and it’s not a good one. The emotional abuse will continue and you and the children will suffer. I’ve been where you are. We minimise the abuse and controlling behaviour. We make excuses for it but it’s dysfunctional dangerous and destructive to you.
-
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
