He still hurts me and controls me

[cupcakes]

I am really struggling this week, he has taken my children on holiday, which I agreed to if he told me where he was taking them –  (detail removed by moderator) He has took them and told me that I can only speak with them (detail removed by moderator).  They are never away from me for more than 2 nights, so I am really struggling with not being able to speak to them, I only want a 5 min call to tell them I love them. I hate how he still can control things, he can still hurt me he can get away with using the children to hurt me.. feel so sad

[Surviving]

My ex is the same. Luckily he don’t see my 2 older kids because of the abuse but courts gave him shared care of our little one. I had to share the holidays for the first time. He had the option to have her (detail removed by moderator) as that’s when he would have had days off work for her but he chose to have (detail removed by moderator) knowing he is working so his girlfriend would look after my little one as he knew it would hurt me. I’m missing her like crazy and her brothers want her home while he goes to work but he refuses

[Surviving]

Unfortunately they like the control.

[iwillbeok]

Not much in the way of advice, I’m afraid, but my heart aches for you. Sending you hugs x

[cupcakes]

Thank you ladies, surviving I am so sorry about what your ex does to you, I would hate another woman looking after my children while he wasn’t there, I am guessing that will happen at some point though. They know how to hurt us don’t they, I hate that they are even allowed to do this.

[Surviving]

We just have to think. The kids will be home soon safe with us. They will screw up soon they won’t change. He is taking her abroad to (detail removed by Moderator) soon that will be the hardest one. Another women taking my little girl to see (detail removed by Moderator).

[cupcakes]

My chidren are back with me it was so hard but at least they are home now.

I am dreading him taking them abroad I worry so much and have really bad anxiety when they are with him so I know how you feel

[Surviving]

Yes mine is home too. A big mark on her face. Was an accident she said (detail removed by moderator). I’m a little annoyed that he is letting her play fortnight on the Xbox she is far too little. She slept at his partners house and the partner slept at his house so it’s all over the place really. Not really stability but she was happy I suppose that’s good

[Surviving]

I’m dreading summer holidays as he will have to have her for (detail removed by moderator) weeks

[cupcakes]

What’s fortnight my (Detail removed by moderator) year old keeps going on about it and I don’t know where he has got it from.

I am so sorry your having so many problems it’s awful when your children are away from you.

[Surviving]

It’s a new game out. Shooting and fighting game I think

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