He still won’t leave me alone

[Thistle06]

I’ve been divorced for a good while now. The only contact is around the kids who are late secondary age. He’s spent the whole summer trying to bully me (detail removed by Moderator). Now he’s using his nickname for me and pretending to be jolly and friendly. This is not the real him. Why is he doing this to me. Why can’t he let me be he has a gf now . I’m finding his over familiarity upsetting it creeps me out. Is that what he’s trying to do ? Will he never leave me alone ? I’ve not reacted just ignored it and been my usual professional politeness but not friendly at all . Can someone help me out I don’t want him in my head

[Complicated]

Hi, I just wanted to say stay strong and that you’re not alone ❤️

I’m only separated recently and don’t have children but the hot and cold behaviour from him is continuous. I’m also having to remain at least somewhat in contact due to a few ties and he’s using every piece of contact to make me feel awful.

The days of him being overly nice/familiar are really tough.

They know what they’re doing, it’s manipulative and its there to make you feel like you do. Don’t let him into your head, I know how hard it is but you’ve already got this far, don’t give him the thoughts he doesn’t deserve. Things will get better ❤️‍🩹

[Thistle06]

I just know it’s all manipulation either to make me cross and say don’t ever call me that we’re divorced or for me to be under a false sense of playing nicely. I hate it. I hate knowing that this is what he’s trying to do and I don’t understand why? I couldn’t care less either way how he speaks to me anymore, those days are long gone. Why doesn’t he get that ?

[Thistle06]

Hes an irrelevance to me. So I ignore and don’t react but that’s very hard.

[StrongLife]

I’m sorry this has happened- it does go on and on. Especially with kids. I think secondary age means they are older. In time they will grow and you will see him less and less and then not at all

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