He Wants to Talk

[Loopy2]

Hi.  I’ve just had a major breakdown (timeframe removed by Moderator) and my sister wanted me to stay with her for a few days.  When I spoke to my partner he’s asked if I can hold off for a few days so we can have a talk (timeframe removed by Moderator).  The problem is, I don’t know if I can or want to talk to him anymore.  We’ve had talks in the past about his behaviour and how he talks to me and the kids but I can never say everything.  I feel guilty because he’ll cry. I don’t like confrontation anyway but he’s very good at talking his way out of everything, turning things around on me and generally making everything that I do remember to say seem really petty and stupid and like I’m crazy.  To be honest, I think we’ve gone past the talking stage anyway.   I just really don’t like him anymore.  We’ve been together a long time and have two children plus two others that I already had (although one has moved out).  He has always treated my two boys horribly and yet I’m pathetic enough to have stayed.

I did eventually brave it and emailed womens aid which took me months to do but they have told me to use the chat on here and given me other links to contact.  I really thought I would get help from them but I didn’t.  I don’t know if I can do it again with another site that they have given and I can’t use the chat feature because he’s always around so I only get limited chances to come on here when I’m on my own.

I’ve really upset my sister (detail removed by Moderator).  I’m really surprised that she wanted me to stay with her (detail removed by Moderator) but she is the only support I have so I guess I should be happy that she hasn’t given up on me yet.  I seem to be constantly miserable about the same thing and doing nothing about it.

So, now I’m waffling. My main thing is…..I don’t know whether to have this talk?  Is there a point in it if I don’t even like the man any more?  Even if he talks me around, I don’t want to stay with him.  I can put it off until (timeframe removed by Moderator) but then what?

Any ideas…..tips please????

 

[Lisa]

Hi Loopy2,

Thank you for sharing with us, I hope it has helped to post here. I wanted to let you know I have sent you a private message.

Best wishes,

Lisa

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