He was hiding me!after math

[Mellow]

During the relationship he always had women calling I now know he had a double life another wife possibly more .it always felt wierd when I did meet certain people it always felt as though it was an accident like he didn’t want me to meet them as if I’d been spoken about negatively .this would be people like unknown work mates and people I’d meet at parties .one time someone completely ignored me and sat beside my partner at a party as if she knew me already I found it real strange also workmates looked at me gone out as if they didn’t know I existed it so red flaggy I don’t know why I didn’t leave he is now fighting me for the kids I feel like running away from here.the courts won’t defend me I don’t think he should see them he’s abusive he will be doing this to my kids.they don’t know who he speaks to either it’s all hidden it’s wierd .why should my kids see all this

[Mellow]

She sat beside him at the party as if she hated me but didn’t know me

[Mellow]

I stayed quite it was so strange

[Twisted Sister]

Hi Mellow

Its very cruel to treat anyone like this. Even in situations where two parties in a relationship don’t want to be together anymore they wouldn’t treat their soon to be ex this way. I know there are many out there who would, but many who wouldn’t. Its particularly cruel tactic to employ, when a woman has no idea logically but can feel these hate vibes nevertheless. It is truly mindbending.

Maybe you could go into refuge with them? You mind find that you will quickly court-ordered to not go into refuge! So they will take control of you instead of him!

I know you have your eyes open, and that will help you to be prepared for whats to come, but act now swiftly before he does.

warmest wishes

ts

[Mellow]

Hi I don’t live in a house with him but this is just my thoughts after the relationship.just venting here hope you don’t mind .would it be wise to go to a refuge when we no longer live together I feel like I’m living worried about what will happen to my kids as he’s taking me to court I can’t prove anything

[Twisted Sister]

Hi Mellow

Yes, I remember that you have not lived together some time now, but I wasn’t sure if he knows where you are, or whether you are still at your parent’s home, or moved again after that, which is what I was wondering about as a consideration for your situation.

Here is absolutely for venting, so vent away 😀

My reply to you was in response to you feeling so awful you wanted to run away. I believe its always worth considering and knowing all your options that may be available to you.

Have you tried Rights of Women for some free legal advice? If you can get through they can certainly give you your legal position and how to best manage his fight for contact/custody.

Arm yourself with all the information you can.

warmest wishes

ts

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