Help me stay rational!!

[Happybelle]

Ladies…… some assistance please in keeping me right on this point!
My partner has never focused on making sure they always do the right thing I.e hold down a job, prioritise their money correctly and has leaned on me for a long time. I have allowed that which is annoying. I was focused on trying to give him a stepping stone to a better life and I now see that this horrible reality is in fact just the way he loves his life.

Anyway….. now I’m the one struggling with bills etc and it is January and a long time to pay day so I’m out of cash. The past days all he has spoken to me about is can he have money to do a leisure activity he usually does. (detail removed by moderator) Every time something does not go his way he says he wants to die. (detail removed by moderator) Anyone else been here…. It’s so draining to get the blame for a problem that they themselves created. It’s a nonsense. Before I used to feel guilty about it and now im just mad that he’s ignoring real and proper grown up problems and crying because he can’t do a non essential activity. It’s taken me sooooooo long to realise his behaviours. I always thought maybe he’s just struggling because he had a difficult childhood etc. Now I’ve realised this is how he has always been.I just didn’t see it, I feel a fool. I know I will now get the silent treatment (good!) for days.
(detail removed by moderator) is it just a massive man baby.

[sweet4]

Hi i have a man baby, got to look after him, well not anymore, you need your hair cut, you need to trim, your facial hair, you need to change your clothes, whey was the last time you showered, he got that bad, he started sleeping with his day clothes on, been separated for a long time, he sleeps in one room and me in the next, so i fully understand what you are dealing with,

[browneyedmum]

Both.

Go get that Occupational Order or Non-Mol. The same thing has been going on for far too long.

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