He's dating someone new…

[Duck]

It’s been a few months since I left my abusive ex. He was very controlling after the break-up – wouldn’t let me get my stuff from the house unless it was on his terms, wouldn’t sign the forms to close the bank accounts etc. His obsession and grip over me has gradually lessened over time. I finally got into the house (detail removed by Moderator) or so ago and took friends with me for back-up and got the forms for the account. Whilst I was there I looked for some of my belongings which were missing and came across signs that he’s found someone else already (which would explain why he’s not so obsessed with me).

Anyway, I have been told by someone that he is in a new relationship. Then I found out his new girlfriend is a close friend of someone I know. No matter how horrible and abusive the relationship got, it’s still tough that he’s moved on. I particularly feel really uncomfortable that he is dating someone I know of, like I should warn them but I know I can’t do that. Men should come with a warning label! If he’s moved on, he’s moved on – I just wish I didn’t know about it.

[betterdays]

Hi there duck my ex moved on few weeks back I were devastated. Couldn’t eat or anything. But hes not that happy as he’s still riding past my house and your ex won’t ‘ve either. They don’t change. What u see is what u get. He’s done you a favour that’s what I were told and I didn’t believe it at first but it’s true I promise you. X*x

[Duck]

He’s still driving past your house? I guess we broke free and that will always frustrate them.

Hopefully him moving on will do me a favour as he is no longer obsessed with me, but it’s still hard. It feels like all the good memories have disappeared in the escape and bitter break-up and now he’s moved on too. I feel so frustrated that I can’t warn her – I don’t think it would bother me if it were a stranger but I feel almost responsible as I know her best friend. It will always bother me that I can’t report him, that men like this can’t be punished.

[AlienStalker]

My ex moved on too after making his death threats etc he moved to a new town not far away and got re married and had kids. I guess I always hoped he would remain single and miserable, life he deserved kinda of thing. Karma really didn’t do anything. Sorry for you and your situation but the guy moving on is the best thing and although its a friend of a friend they really won’t listen to a word you have to say as he will have his own sob story, it all being your fault which it is not in any way shape or form.

I hope you find happiness in a new life free of controlling factors.

[KIP.]

Duck, you can report him to the police. They will take a statement and warn his current partner. You don’t have to be involved that way. Ring 101 and speak to the domestic abuse section for advice. If more women reported abuse, their statements can be used as corroboration X

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