he's texted me demanding

[betterdays]

To see his son saying he knows he’s been a t..t but he wants to see him he will be at the door next I’m scared x*x

[KIP.]

Block his number. If he turns up call the police. If he wants to see his son he can arrange it through the courts. He’s had too many chances. He’s bored with his new lady already. Don’t let him Hoover you back up. No contact X

[Healthyarchive]

Dear Betterdays, i’m worried about this, I think you need to stay on your guard and do what KIP says, block him. I would also speak to your DV support worker and the police, just so that they can keep an eye out. You ex has started the hoovering techniques, prepare yourself for the Grand Hoover which is basically him coming round banging on your door, possibly kicking your door in, causing a massive scene, doing something violent and terrorizing all of you. There is a lot to read about the grand hoover and how to manage it and protect yourself:

Black Hole, The N********t Hoover by HG Tudor, free to read on Amazon.

http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/hoovering-how-the-n********t-tricks-you-into-breaking-no-contact

I believe that this is the start of some real nastiness, he will turn into a monster enraged at his loss of control and your being happy without him. Please take care and keep posting. XXXXX

[Serenity]

Block him, let him take you to court if he wants, where you can tell Cafcass everything, and an arrangement can be made protecting your son.

Your son is old enough to make a choice but also, as a vulnerable child, he needs to be emotionally protected. As the adult, you are aware of your ex’s abusive nature in a way your son might not be. Your ex is very emotionally abusive towards him. The authorities would be very interested to hear about his abusive comments towards your son.

If your ex harasses you, call the police.

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