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Hi, all. In need of some support from people who understand. Fled last year after abuse escalated to hurting youngest child. We were homeless for weeks until court evicted ex. I’ll keep it as short as possible. Earned around £15000 last year but spent nearly £12000 on legal fees to keep youngest safe. Ex took all our savings, so could afford useless court appearances. Eventually, judge told him he wouldn’t win but if he carried on, he would have to pay my costs – naturally he withdrew “for the sake of his child”. Divorce started, financial order made but he has broken every term. Can’t afford to take it back to court. Now have letter from his solicitor blaming me for his client not sticking to agreement! Threatening that if I don’t do what ex wants, which includes exchanging texts and emails, he will go back to court! I cried my eyes out and have had enough. He wins. He can now have the house, I give in. But he doesn’t win everything. His children are now young adults and are adamant they never want to see him again. I hope him and the house are very happy together. The law, as they say, is an a*s!
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I think legal fees are taken into account when applying for legal aid. Ring Rights for Women, they offer free legal advice. Think outside the box and keep asking questions. Most solicitors offer first half hour free so try different ones for different solutions. Just because his solicitor puts it in writing doesn’t mean he will follow through. My ex was full of empty threats via his solicitor. The Judge has already seen right through his bullying tactics. No way is he going to take you back to court. If he does you can ask the court to award him your costs. Ignore his bullying empty threats until he actually does something that needs action. Pathetic bullies.
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Thanks for the reply, Kip. I can’t get legal aid because my work is periodical. I am not out of work long enough to get it. The longest I’ve been off is six weeks and by the time I was assessed and granted legal aid, I was back in full time work and no longer entitled to it. All without solicitor actually doing anything legal for me! The system sucks! When I work full time, I earn too much for the brief time I’m working full time – and the cycle continues. I couldn’t even get it when we were homeless and he’d taken all my money because I had earned too much the month before! It was my first job for many years and my first pay. I hope you’re right about the letter. Thanks for support.
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A solicitors letter is just that, a letter! It is not a court officially saying you must do this that and the next thing. I wouldn’t be surprised if the ending of the letter says ‘without prejudice’. His solicitor cannot instruct you to contact him in any way shape or form. Maybe go to CAB to ask what you can do next.
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