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I don’t quite know how to explain what I have been through. Brief description. It started really nice. I felt wanted and secure.the little digs started to come. Now and again. Went through a violent phase. And now total control. I have now left this relationship after many tries. He is very good with manipulation, and wears me down, I give in and the control starts again. I’m hopeful that this is it. I have ended this.!
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That’s such good news that you’ve ended this relationship. Well done. It’s really important that you maintain No Contact. This means absolutely No Contact. Don’t respond to messages, no meeting up, no communication at all. If it means changing your contact details, it’s far safer than not. He will absolutely hate this. Don’t pity him or let him hoover you back because it gives him the control again. You’ll get there.
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Thank you maddog. I seen him today in my area, for no reason. I contacted 101 online and made a detailed report.im so scared. I don’t understand why he is around. Feels like he is stalking me.
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Hi BlueBeauty,
You have shown amazing strength to leave this relationship, its terribly frightening when you have no support from friends or family. Like you I have been isolated from them for years, a lot from my husband telling everyone I wasn’t a mixer and him keeping me in his abusive bubble for many years. I have had incredible support from a DA counsellor and finally opened up to my mum about the abuse which was really hard as I was ashamed. Have you got a DA support service where you live, my GP put me in touch with Refuge. The more people you open up to you’ll be surprised who is there to help. You’re not alone lovely, keep posting on this forum any time you want, these ladies have helped me more than I can say. Stay safe , stand your ground and continue to show your amazing strength. Sending you a big hug x*x
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Hi, have you been on the forum long? I have also just joined😊
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Well done for reporting to police. The Suzy Lamplugh Trust runs the National Stalking helpline. May be worth contacting them. Stalking is taken very seriously and you shouldn’t live in fear. My ex used to stalk us. It was horrible. He used to say he was allowed to hang around in a public space. His motivation was warped.
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