Hidden cameras

[Plodding]

Hi again I wonder if anyone has thoughts or experience with their partner /husband using cameras inside or if Annie has felt suspicious of this ? I feel I sound paranoid but recently we have the ring doorbell which is great and we had one for inside just for while we were on holiday and we spoke about just having it on while away for security . However since we have got home he has put this inside one behind something (This may not be deliberate ) on a shelf and at times including today (he’s at work all day ( I have been cleaning a d found that it is on but then another time (after I found it and had stared at it ( it was off again . Today I found it on again . I don’t know whether to mention something ( not in accusing way though) what would I do ? Turn it off ? But then it looks like I’m being suspicious? My h is a gas lighter /emotional abuse
Thanks x

[Cantmakedecisons]

My partner used cameras to monitor me. He would know if someone came into the house or if I have left to go someone.. he would often test me on his return to see if I was truthful. If you gut is telling you something isn’t right then it probably isn’t.

[KIP.]

Trust your gut. I’d remove it as you don’t need it now you’re back from holiday. That’s a good enough reason. See how he reacts. If he’s monitoring you this way then Check your phone too and any other devices. iPads etc.

[Eggshells]

It’s not easy to turn the cameras on by mistake.

I would put it away safely. If he mentions it, just say you’ve put it away to keep it safe and so that you can remember where it is for next time you go away.

Make sure you have the app on the phone so that you can see any images it’s picking up. That way, if he hides it again, you can work out where it is.

[Plodding]

Thanks how would I check other devices I’m not great with technology

[Lisa]

Hi Plodding,

I wanted to share these links about online safety incase they are helpful to you…

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/cover-your-tracks-online/

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/onlinesafety/

Best wishes,

Lisa

[Eggshells]

If you download the ring app you should be able to scan the QR code on the back of the camera. The app should give you step by step instructions.

If you’re struggling you should be able to Google it.

It can be a bit temperamental but it shouldn’t be complicated. xx

[Grey Rock]

Hi,

I think it is worth treating this as a warning that he’s likely to be monitoring you in other ways. Through your phone for example. It might be worth doing a factory reset of your mobile phone and other devices. (If he questions why you’ve done this you can say it just got really slow – often spyware apps do this so if he has put something on there to track / spy on you this would make sense anyway). Make sure to regularly change passwords and clear browsing history. It’s also worth getting an exit strategy in place just in case things escalate, ensuring that documents you might need are somewhere safe and easy to grab (passport, birth certificate, education certificates, car documents, etc) and an emergency overnight bag.

I don’t like to sound dramatic or scary but this level of control from him isn’t a good sign.

Take care.
GR. Xx

[Plodding]

Thanks Iv checked and he has removed the camer and don’t know where it’s gone . He brought it up saying he had forgotten to put it away after we got back but it wasn’t turned on it only comes on when the sensor is triggered ie so when I removed what was in fri t of it . Now the only reason I removed what was in front of it was because I’d noticed there was “motion” that day on the app in his iPad and the other days it said “no activity” this made me listen to it which was me and the kids talking in the hallway and then I removed the item in front of it saw the red light and that would have recorded my face looking at it however I deleted the stuff before of me and the kids so he wouldn’t have seen this . I’m unsure if it really does “come in when the sensor is triggered “ x

[Eggshells]

A Ring has 3 modes, all controlled from the app. “Disarmed” switches all of the devices – including the doorbell – off.

“Home” switches all devices off, except the doorbell.

“Away” arms all devices to be motion sensitive so they lie dormant until they detect motion.

A few questions pop onto mind.

Does he have the app on his phone as well as his iPad? If so, his phone will have alerted him to motion everytime it alerted his iPad. He will have known the camera was set to “Away” and will have been able to listen to your conversation via the live feed.

If the app is on his phone and was being triggered, why didn’t he switch it off?

Why did he put it behind an object? He must have tested it behind the object to make sure it still detected motion – otherwise there is no point in having it.

Why didn’t he switch it off (if the app was on his phone)?

[Plodding]

Thanks for this info it’s really helpful . My main thought aswell is the putting it behind an object since it wasn’t when we went on holiday ! Otherwise as u say there would’ve been no point ! He does have the app on his phone . I’m wondering if this is a tactic to make me feel anxious or to get me accusing him of something which will give him a reason to have a go at me

[Bettertimesahead]

All sounds strange. We had CCTV and.ny ex would constantly watch the app on a sphone.He would see me arrive home from work and get up to make tea, make himself look good etc. After hed gone he used to still watch and sent messages so I knew. Ended up changing whole router etc to stop him having access. You could say a friend wants to borrow it , find out where it is

[Anonymous]

Abusers will monitor in different ways whether it’s stalking, hacking your phone, going through your phone/ through your property, checking up on you through other people, intentionally getting other people to check up on you, interrogating you and the above things already stated, they will do some of these things maybe all? they’re like not so subtle private detectives,they are not right in the mind and not healthy to be with, if you have any of those suspicions or experiences, please get out x x x

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