Housing advice

[Goldengirl]

Hi,all. I’m hoping someone can give advice. I got a court order to get my husband out of the marital home but I just don’t feel safe. He’s doing things that are just the wrong side of the injunction but not big enough for others to care. It is all to keep me off guard. My problem is that the house is in his name, so he gets to decide when it’s sold and the council won’t move me as they won’t class me as homeless. I have no money to put cameras up to catch him, so no evidence. I have had enough of living in fear. He lives (detail removed by Moderator), so easy access to me and the children, who don’t see him. Any advice?

[Ayanna]

I was also not rehoused and we lived in a council flat.
He broke bail conditions and was around our place all the time. I was scared to death for weeks.
This system is extremely brutal towards abused women and you need to be hard as steel.
Women do not count much, so there is not much available for our support.
As you are home owners your chances of getting housed are practically zero.
The council does not give a flying f.. whether you were abused, that is the bleak reality.
I left the flat and rented in the private housing market.
I pay a fortune for my place but I was lucky to find a lovely place with an excellent landlord.

If you are tough enough stay in that place and sit it out until the house is sold and you get your share paid out. Then you can move on.

Another option would be to move into a refuge and stay there until you get the share of the house money – if there is a refuge near you and they take you.

[Lisa]

Hi Goldengirl,

Thank you for posting.

Have you spoken to Shelter? They can give free housing advice on all housing matters. You can find details here.

Also, as Ayanna has suggested, the option of refuge might work for you. The 24hr National Domestic Violence Helpline (0808 2000 247) can discuss options available to you based on your circumstances, including refuge availability.

Keep posting to let us know how you are getting on.

Best wishes,

Lisa

[Goldengirl]

I couldn’t go into refuge as I also have an (detail removed by Moderator) year old son. I will think about contacting shelter though. I don’t know how much more I can take!

[KIP.]

Some charities might fund alarms, safety lighting etc. Ring the helpline on here and get in touch with your local women’s aid. A non molestation order may keep him a certain distance away too.get good advice from a solicitor. Most offer free initial advice.

[Goldengirl]

Thanks for your advice Kip. I went for a non molestation but he eventually signed an undertaking which is totally worthless. Can’t afford to keep going back to court, so live on my nerves. I’ll get in touch with shelter and may phone womens aid.

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