How do I cope with this?

[NeedHappiness]

I’m absolutely heartbroken. We got back together and because i asked who a woman was he followed, he kicked off and ended things with me. Said I ruined his life, because he went to prison for strangling me before, he lost his son because of me and his home, he hates me, I’m evil, nasty ugly, weird. I left him alone after a lot of begging and then just under (timeframe removed by moderator) later he adds me on social media and asks how I am. Then he get drunk (timeframe removed by moderator) and tells me how ‘I’m his’ and how if I got with anyone else I need to warn them about him etc he’s not having anyone touch me. Then hours later says he was lying he has no feelings for me. I’m so angry sad and upset I just can’t seem to get over him. I’m miserable with or without and he seems absolutely fine. I don’t know what to do anymore or how to feel happy again. Just feel like I’m stuck

[NeedHappiness]

I can’t even leave the house. I have no interest in doing anything. I’m so so sad. Everyone loves him and thinks he’s a great person which he can be, he says everyone agree’s with what he did to me to go to prison. I work in his home town, we like the same music, we have the same humour, binge watched the same programmes. Everything reminds me of him. I feel like an absolute loser and I hate my life completely

[Lisa]

Hi NeedHappiness,

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this low. How he’s treating you is a choice he’s making and you are not to blame. His behaviour feels confusing but abuse is all about power and control, he’s acting this way to give himself control over you. It’s his fault he went to prison, not yours. I doubt anyone is agreeing with what he did, that sounds like something he’s making up to hurt you. Anyone who actually agrees isn’t a decent person.

I’m glad that you’re continuing to reach out here for support when you need. It might be worth speaking to your GP for some support around how you’ve been feeling. You could also contact your local domestic abuse service for some ongoing, specialist support.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

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