How do i end a controlling relationship?

[Xxxdreamcatcherxxx]

Im (detail removed by moderator) into a relationship with a man im finding since may has become very controlling. Always ringing to see where i am, if i dont answer immediately wants to know why. Hes making my life hell, he hates the children coming to me for love and cuddles, hates me going anywhere on my own, stopped me ordering pizza on wednesday for me and kids, when i tell him to stop sex if hes doing something im not comfortable with or being very ruff, he says no you like it really and carries on. Iv been through an abusive marriage and now this. Its my house, he has a key, stays over a lot, he has his own flat. Iv reached breaking point and i dont know where to start x

[Shipoffools]

Hi there,

Agreed His behaviour sounds very worrying indeed, you know the DV signs and you and your children have already been through enough with an abusive marriage, don’t put up with any more bad behaviour from this guy, you are totally entitled to end this relationship without reason if nessecary. Maybe you could arrange to meet him out in a busy public place, take a friend with you and tell him you’ve decided to end the relationship. Ask him for you’re key back. If he won’t give you your key back get the locks changed. All the best xx

[Twisted Sister]

Dear Xxxdreamcatcherxxx

I wrote a lengthy reply which then vanished and trying to type accurately on this stupid device is drivibvmet distraction. I have just read your post agan and wanted to make sure you knew it had been read an not replied to.

You’re saying you’ve had enough, and frankly, fair enough!

It’s your house, your home, and your right to have your space to you uninvaded.

When he’s not there, change the locks, then advise him that you’re finished with the relationship, and don’t want any more contact at all as its not up for discussion. You’re done with it and there’s notig he can do to change your mind. That you have to take back your own space which means no more coming to the house, and locks have been changed.

That if he tries to make contact you will block him on phone, media,etc. Do let he police know of your actions based on the behaviours he has demonstrated while you were together and that you have warned him you want no further contact.

If he contacts you or turns up you can tel police and block him every way you can.

It’s the only way, and een then I doubt he will take it lying down! At least you will have done everything to be free of him

Do keep posting an let us know how you are getting on.

Warmest wishes ts

[Shipoffools]

Hi there, I like TWs advise…just change locks and inform him, don’t bother meeting him at all…it’s much safer not to. And do inform the police too just in case you need them further down the line..hope all goes well, let us know if you can xx

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