How do I tell him

[Littlepixie]

So after 2 months of looking I’ve finally found a place to rent. I got my keys but haven’t moved in yet as I’ve no furniture. My husband doesn’t know I’m leaving. He usually works away from home but has been here all week. He’s going back (detail removed by Moderator) & ideally I’d like to move in this week before he comes back next (detail removed by Moderator).
I don’t know how to tell him? I’m scared that if I tell him he’ll not go back to work & then will keep our son with him. He threatened me with this last year & I know he would do it. Do I just let him go onto work, say nothing & then phone him during the week & tell him we’ve moved out. I’m not sure where the law stands in this? Our son can stay with him at the weekend whenever he’s here so I’m not stopping him seeing him. I can’t get a solictor appointment to ask his advice until Thursday but I really don’t want another weekend here.

[Better-days]

Hi little pixie what u are doing takes a huge amount of bravery and I hope to be in the same position as u in a few months so I don’t know the answer but like that I would have to just leave when he’s at work as I tried to leave and he got aggressive. I have never felt stronger and so sure I’m done with him and I need to leave but I’m sure when the time comes I will be a complete mess. It feels so wrong to just leave but there is no other way as these men r not normal human beings. I wish u so much strength and luck and u have inspired me so much please let me know how it goes xx

[Littlepixie]

I can’t just leave without telling him because he’s always in contact with my son when he’s away. I can’t have my son lying to his dad about where he is. My son worships his dad and I have to try and make this as easy as possible for him.
I don’t feel very strong. I feel like I’m on the outside looking in and I constantly doubt myself if I’m doing the right thing. I feel sick at the thought of telling him. My son doesn’t know we have a house because again I don’t want to put him in a situation where his dad can say that he knew all about it and didn’t tell him.
Please think about leaving when you can. I should have left years ago but didn’t have the courage and the worry about money etc. I decided in March after an incident and I had almost gave up looking for a rental property. I have wanted to give up so many times and even yesterday I was in tears feeling like I can’t go on. It’s so hard. Sending love and strength to you xx

[Better-days]

I understand how u feel I don’t know how my kids will be about all this. It is very difficult I can’t even begin to imagine how hard it is for u. Take care u will amaze yourself when it’s over xxxx

[Littlepixie]

Sorry I haven’t been on here. Spoke to the solicitor who said I can tell him anyway I want it. I’m not a prisoner and it doesn’t have to be face to face. I don’t even know if I could do a phone call. We haven’t spoke in 2 months so it would be very awkward to just pick up the phone and tell him. I know if he starts shouting I can just hang up but the thought of doing any of this makes me feel sick. Even texting him & him texting me back is giving me anxiety. I just want it to be over. Hope you’re doing ok? xx

[Better-days]

Hi littlepixie sorry for late reply I’m doing ok. I don’t think there’s an easy way to tell him this is the biggest step you will take but it will be the beggining if the rest of your life.

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