How to leave with Suicide Threats

[Loopy2]

Hi.  I’ve been thinking about leaving for quite a while, trying to get things sorted in my head about how I will manage with my disabilities and look after the kids and myself even though he doesn’t really do anything to help anyway.  The one thing I can’t get my head around is how I leave with the threat of suicide hanging over my head?

Do I just leave and hope for the best and have my kids hate me if he does kill himself?  Do I warn someone first just in case and look stupid if he denies every saying anything?  How do I handle this?  It scares me so much.

Has anyone ever left in this situation please?

Thanks in advance x

[Lisa]

Hi Loopy2,

Thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. Abusive men often make threats of suicide- this is a tool of control- he wants you to feel responsible for him and it traps you in the relationship. Its understandable that this is playing on your mind but you have a right to leave an abusive situation. If you are concerned for his mental health- if you do leave in the future you can contact the police and ask them to carry out a welfare check.

You mentioned that you are planning to leave. Do reach out to your local domestic abuse service if you haven’t already. They should be able to navigate this with you and safety planning.

Best Wishes

Lisa

[Loopy2]

Thank you Lisa.  I’m not sure when I am leaving yet but I know I will.  I just don’t want my children to hate me if he does do something to himself.  Once I can get my head around this, I will contact my local service as you suggested.

Thanks again Lisa x x

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