Husband being arrested

[Writer24]

Hello

I’m new here and and feeling absolutely wretched. Long story very short.. ive been trying for a divorce for a while but stalling because of my husbands volatility; im scared of his reaction in front of the children. My solicitor advised I should go to the police on a non urgent basis not with a view to him being arrested so that I’m on their radar. I went to the police (timeframe removed by Moderator) and they have said they are arresting him for coercive control. He is at his (relative removed by Moderator) at the moment and they may do it there. I feel so bad like I have made a huge mistake.

[Cherries]

I don’t know what to say except I understand the fear. I was always too scared to go to the police.

Not because I was afraid of repercussions for him but because I was afraid of what he would do when they let him go.

Please be somewhere safe if you can, and do let us know how you are if possible x

[Littlemissmermaid]

I was in a very similar situation. I had been dealing with a lot of verbal abuse for months, but had absolutely no intention of doing anything about it because I still had hope that our relationship could heal.

To cut a long story short, my family eventually had enough of seeing me constantly suffering as a result of his daily abuse, and went to the local police station. I begged officers not to take things further, and just told them that I was only interested in advice and to know what support was available. Unfortunately, when it comes to incidents involving any form of domestic abuse, once police are made aware of a situation, they cannot ignore it and have a duty of care which means they have to investigate and arrest whomsoever is deemed the main perpetrator.

My husband was arrested and I was absolutely distraught. It wasn’t the outcome i had wanted or intended at all, and there was nothing I could do.

Since his arrest, I have recieved so much support from both the police and support agencies, and although I am still completely heartbroken, I am no longer living in fear and constant pain from the abuse I was receiving daily.

I hope you are getting all of the support you need and that you eventually find peace and happiness you deserve. Stay strong.

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