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    • #80815
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      Why some abusers drive wrecklessly? In my first abusive relationship my sons dad had drove like a total psycho even when his own son were un the car at a young age and had special needs… he used to say he had a good mind to smash it up….. looking back how horrendous that were…. thank god im out… he used to also drive really close to cars too while on the road.. x

    • #80819
      KIP.
      Participant

      It’s an easy way to scare us. We are trapped. Mine used to do the same. They love to invoke fear and watch at close quarters. We have nowhere to go. They have all the power and control. Mine did it too often with our young son in the car. Utterly terrifying. Good riddance to bad rubbish. Although here’s a funny thing. My ex dropped the gears foot to the floor. My head pinned to the seat with the g-force and got done by a cop with a speed camera. 😂. He made a complaint about that cop just to ‘ruin his day as he’s ruined mine’. Still got a fine n 3 points 😂.

    • #80822
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      Thats hillarious kip… about the points… ha. Its all still about control they dont care if there children are there. X

    • #80823
      KIP.
      Participant

      I think having children there excites them more because it distresses us more. One of the first posts I ever read on here was about a woman driving with her kids in the car arguing with her husband who was in the passenger seat. He was losing the argument so he put his hand behind her head and smashed her face into the steering wheel – while she was driving. That stuck with me all these years because it shows they simply don’t care. In the moment of red mist he was prepared to kill them all just to win a silly argument and regain ‘control’.

    • #80824
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      His son has prefound difficulties too that i think to this day is caused by him.. he made out he were a loving dad…. loving dads dont do that x

    • #80827
      Butterflyboo
      Participant

      Urgh my ex did that too when he wasn’t getting his own way, a power thing because he knew it scared me. No consideration at all for the danger he was putting his kids in and how frightened they were.

    • #80850
      she-ra
      Participant

      Dido. Completely agree they do it more with the kids in the car as it makes us more distressed. x

    • #80943
      Worrywart
      Participant

      my ex did that to me a few times too …they really do read from the same script don’t they

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