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With what I see going on with women here. Not okay. Not even close to being okay. Soooo…….I want to sound the alarm here because we have got to really see what’s going on. It’s Insanity. We women are still in shackles here as if we were slaves brought in on ships and chained somewhere to do the bidding of our masters who bought us. Is that okay with you personally? Not okay with me.
Day after day I see endless accounts of what women are putting up with and have been brainwashed into putting up with and it’s horrendous. Ghastly, criminal, nasty abuse. Being drugged and raped while they are sleeping, told how horrible they are, monitored like a slave owner monitors their slaves. I mean, Ladies! We have to rise Up here, we really do. This is beyond cruelty. Back off, go to your own mountaintop and take a look at what’s going on across the board here. And women grovel and feel guilty for saying that hurt me, going back for crumbs, thinking their abuse is their fault, etc.
We have to draw a line in the sand that says – No More and actually mean it. We are the fiber and the glue that holds this world together. As I have said before, no us, no human race. And no, it doesn’t work if all of us are enslaved either.
(detail removed by Moderator) But this has to stop for us, it really does. We can’t examine our navels and wonder why oh why is a predator a predator and stay addicted to the so-called cursed happy times, we have to wake up. We have to do something about it.
I want to see some warrior women here who are ready to take on the challenge because I am putting my sword in the ground now. On my horse, waiting……….
C’mon lassies. I know you are out there. Show me your grit!
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I’m in! Well…no….OUT…well, I’m trying to be. Yeeee haaaaa. I’m on my horse too…Probably better not give me a sword though.
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Just prior to Covid-19 I was seriously considering leaving my job and going freelance as a Domestic Abuse Consultant. I wanted to go in to businesses and give talks on Domestic Abuse Awareness to people. I wanted to link in with the Wellbeing Teams in businesses and give my presentations to as many people as I could so that I can raise awareness of this matter. I wanted to try and start something that says
Let’s Stamp Out The Stigma Of Domestic Abuse. Coming on this site has made me even more aware that so many women do not know what Domestic Abuse consists of. This education is being missed in society and it is shocking. Why are so many women not aware? How do we raise this awareness?This should no longer be something that women are ashamed to admit happens. The shame is not on them, the shame is on the abuser. Women should not have to phone in work and report they are sick with a ‘stomach bug’ for a week until their visible bruises have healed. They should be able to feel free to report to their boss that they cannot come in to work because they have been assaulted. Yet women are still covering for their abuser and protecting him by lying about their suffering. For some reason, shame has been associated with the victims, not the abuser.
So many times people say “Why doesn’t she just leave him?” but the question needs to change to “Why does he do that to her?” The onus should not be on the woman to leave, the onus should be on the abuser to be held to account for his actions and behaviour.
I don’t know how we are going to make these changes, but I’m up for raising awareness, I’m up for educating people on what Domestic Abuse is and what a Healthy Relationship is.
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Ohhh let’s so DO shine the light on our abusers and on the laws that protect them, shall we? Whatever we don’t change here we are subject to and those who come after us are subject to so do have to get on our horses here. I don’t care if we look all haggy or whatever. Don’t care if we even feel like it. Don’t care if we’re not in the mood so much. It has to be done. I’m mixing the pot, sending riders from hilltop to hilltop, lighting the torches to be seen for miles. If we don’t do it, who will?
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Let’s get this party started shall we? We shall.
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Hey Queen!! Got more horses here, more swords… Waiting…
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Ohhh I’m giving you a sword Iliketea and Wantstohelp! If nothing else we look cute wearing it, right?
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OMG, watching a movie on Netflix – The Family and only a quarter the way in but I am liking these women!! I possibly have some mafia blood in me……….ut oh.
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I’m with you!!
I got out, I am a survivor!! I decided I was not going to accept that treatment for me or for my kids – no no no!!!
I read back some of my earlier posts today and I was so unsure, so hoping to be wrong, worrying about why he did what he did and how could I change it?
I came to accept that this was my reality and my life and if I wanted to change it I would need to be the one to make the change.
I was lucky / the cards that led to my eventual exit fell my way. It wasn’t easy. I still have challenges ahead. But I face them with knowledge and support and I will not go back to being a victim. -
Headspinning!! Loving this!!!! You looking so good on your horse girl!! Not liking the movie so much now, too violent. Anyways, we just can’t dilly dally on the fence. I mean we can but why do that? If we went to the market it would take us like how long to see if a fruit is good enough? sooo, we need years to see if this guy’s long hanging fruit is good enough? Too bad their brain cells end up sinking but that’s how it goes. All two of them.
Thing is, you’d be very surprised about the cards and how they fall when you decide – that’s It. I’m done. We do it with one foot in a pot and one foot in the other pot and never fully commit so we end up being upset at the outcome. Might as well try being fully committed then, right? All in.
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Cantmakedecisions…….you are going to have to change your name girlfriend. Because you ARE making decisions!!!!
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I say we magic them away! Poof! right out of our lives forever! our self worth, slamming the door on them. But, you know… I’m with you! up there on my horse, beside you all, ready to fight! Bring down the enemy! War on weakness! Knowing the war is started already!… “The pen is mightier than the sword!” it’s said!… And our swords, the textwritten words! cutting through ignorance here. Freeing the captive! to bring down their wrong doers! Fight on sister’s!
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Fabulous posts. I have been very depressed, numb and low. I have just been on YouTube and watched videos about what I have experienced to validate my feelings that I can’t share with friends or family. I am trying hard to shake myself out of this slump but yes, I held down a full time, complex job, did all the jobs in the house, fed everyone, paid for everything, was sexually available, looked after my appearance, tried to be better, better, best – and I am a kind and generous person all round but not in his eyes …. I was subjected to endless toxic gas lighting and crazy making manipulation – vile behaviour and yet, I am still mourning the end of this toxic, fraudulent relationship and plans for a future which I am slowly learning are fake, fake, fake. I have been hooked in over and over again because of this belief in his lies and crazy making. I am slowly waking up. But yes, we women do need to rise up. It is OVER and we must refuse to be ruled by TOXIC MASCULINITY. Thank you to you all xx
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I loved reading all of your posts. I am currently still in the relationship, only one foot!! I’m learning all the time, you women are the true warriors and it warms me to know that people really care about what this abuse is doing to people like me, I will keep reading and learning and making my exit plan and hope I will join you on my horse and ride with you to Victory Hill xx
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Wiseafter! Meadowside! Put us in shackles and expect us to stay there like good little girls will they?? Oh I don’t think so!! It might take us awhile to wake that dragon in us up but like I keep saying the human race would not be here if not for us in more ways than one so maybe it’s time the world got a whiff once again of what matriarchal rule is all about. What it’s not about is being bullies, abusers, spoiled brats with no conscience, integrity or honor. If we are going to lead, which this world sorely needs then we can’t do that in chains right? And make absolutely NO mistake – your chains were always about someone fearing your real power should you ever discover it…. And don’t worry about not being able to ride because you never have before. It’s written in your genetic code. You’ve ridden before. These horses know the way anyway. You look mighty fine sitting up there ladies.
Queen Elizabeth I would be proud. Do remember the Spanish Armada that got swallowed up by the sea in a freak storm. Was that storm just sheer luck or was it more about that woman’s sheer will that brought that storm into being?
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I have visions of us all on horses lol.
We are told that if we leave then …… Well bring it on!
We are told we won’t get anyone better. YES we can because next time we will know if something seems off in a new man.
THEY ARE JUST PATHETIC LITTLE BOYS!!!! WHO ARE BULLIESSorry for the rant I am all revved up today lol
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Oh please don’t be sorry!!! I love it!! Yes they are little boy bullies aren’t they? Well, Poof! Be Gone! I like your horse. She’s pawing the ground over there!
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Something I have dreamed of. All of us together, singing “Read all about it part 3” on National TV with Garath Malone coaching us. Show our faces and thereby exposing our abusers. Raise money for WA. I can’t sing so you’d all have to cover my voice!
I’ve also been thinking a lot about the term “survivors”. Atm, I am surviving but I aim to be a thriver!
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Yes M’aam!!
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Hi Braelynn (and fellow warriors)
I admire your fire and am with you on taking up the fight. I’ve been following the progress of the Domestic Abuse Bill 2019-21 which has now reached the House of Lords.
They’ve introduced a new part to the bill recently, outlawing the ‘rough sex’ defence in rape cases. I’m wondering how we get things added to a Bill. Does anyone else feel sick when they read about yet another ‘jealous’ man who murders a woman?
We used to have the defence line of ‘provocation’. Women’s actions and behaviour were cited as provoking men to murder. This was replaced in law with ‘loss of control.’ To be honest I have trouble seeing the difference.
Both provocation and loss of control imply that women do things so bad that murder by men can be downgraded in law to manslaughter.
The media, more often than not, supports this view. And to such an extent that they use lazy headlines – google how many ‘jealous’ men kill partners or ex-partners. How long have we accepted without question the notion that a woman’s actions (real or imagined) can be all it takes for a man to ‘lose control’? What the law is saying is men can’t help becoming murderers if ‘their’ women step out of line.
I know I’ve been going on a bit but this is important to me. I don’t believe women will have the full protection of the law as long as we’re held to a particular set of behaviours. A woman leaves a man and he murders her because he’s jealous and loses control. I think a woman leaves a man and he murders her because he’s lost control over her, not himself.
If I could add one thing to the new Bill it would be a review of the loss of control defence.
If I could affect change in the media it would be a ban on using the word ‘jealous’ to describe men who murder women.
I’d be interested to hear everyone’s thoughts xx
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I’ve just spent a chunk of night shift researching loss of control and have to admit, to put it bluntly, I’ve been talking out my rear. Sorry! Apparently it can’t be used as a partial defence if there is an element of revenge.
Mind you, I stand by what I said about over-use of the word jealousy. 🙂
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Hi Camel, I’m with you girl! Interestingly, laws past in parliament are debated my many more men than women arn’t they. Would that imply that womens views, even in the highest place of debate are more likely to be unheard? or maybe? shouted down! along with other assumed, less important debate? then are women’s views raised, likely doomed to go unaddressed by their male counterparts or be deemed less deserving? We’ve all seen what happens to those women and men who get bood, bullied almost into backing down onto their seats. Male testosterone the problem! And very possibly the cause of men’s need to control! Testosterone! Is this the reason Jealous men kill THEIR women? I believe it is that or sheer madness! Its simple really, look to the animal kingdom, Alpha dominantion! Now back to undeveloped modern day thinking man! A dead wife/partner? be it ex or not, poses no threat to his Alpha position! Be it in his head or his balls. Oops! No offense intended! Ok. I stand down now.
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I hear you Camel and all of it is sooo male chauvinistic and actually very abusive towards women. We are still being treated like property. If you turn many things around and ask if this were a woman would they get the same treatment? Alot of times that’s a no. Good ole boy club is alive and well! No wonder women have been the supreme poisoneers down through the ages. And speaking of the animal kingdom Hazy – I love the matriarchal animals like elephants and hyenas. We could learn alot from them actually.
Did you know the spotted hyena has a pseudo penis? It’s actually an extended clitoris up to 7 inches long. They have alot of testosterone and are larger than the males, who I might add have to be on their best behavior if they want to have sex with the females. They have to be very submissive and if it’s not done properly they could get severely chewed up. The female also has to contract and fold in her clitoris in order to allow the male to mate with her and he of course has to aim well. The females don’t have any use for the males past this and they are excellent mothers. Look up Female, Man Parts | World’s Weirdest on youtube.
Also the story about the very mean alpha baboon males who ate poisoned meat and died off in a troup in Kenya. They were very abusive to the females and lower baboon males, thus the females didn’t take care of their young well, didn’t groom each other well, etc. The alphas gorged themselves on whatever food and left little for the rest of them. So one day they ate bad stuff and all got sick and died. Bummer. The rest of the troup actually flourished after that. They started taking care of themselves and each other, etc. And funny thing was when a male from the outside wanted to come into the troup and join, if they were abusive the females would actually kick them out. Interesting little story…
And then of course there is the Mosuo matriarchal society in Tibet. You ladies have to look this one up. I’ll give you a teaser here…Men and women practice what is known as a “walking marriage” – an elegant term for what are essentially furtive, nocturnal hook-ups with lovers known as “axia”. A man’s hat hung on the door handle of a woman’s quarters is a sign to other men not to enter. These range from one-night stands to regular encounters that deepen into exclusive, life-long partnerships – and may or may not end in pregnancy. But couples never live together, and no one says, “I do”.
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Here are the top matriarchal societies that have flourished for centuries with women at the helm.
Mosuo, Tibet
Bribri, Costa Rica
Umoja, Kenya
Minangkabau, Indonesia
Akan, Ghana
Khasi, IndiaAlso towards the end of “The Pyramid Code” on youtube it talks about how the women ruled or co-ruled with men as equals for a time and much peace, health and wellbeing was the end result.. Very interesting thing to watch. Quite informative.
Very interesting to note as well that the female lions do most of the hunting while the males rest. 🙂
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